Frustrated by a non response by therapist

[QUOTE=monalisasmile;5321617]Oh lord, what a strange response. I don't understand any of it 1step. It would leave me feeling angry. I asked a therapist before why she wouldn't say she liked a client even though she asked her every single session and her response was because the little child part wants reassurance and if I was to satisfy her the other grown up parts would be distrustful and angry with me because I can never be there for the little child as much as she wants me to, so I don't want to tease her. Instead I asked her to watch me very closely every week when I see her coming into her session, she could see my face and I was delighted to see her, soon the little girl parts learned to trust how we connected in session and were able to sense that she was very fond of her client, she used the word charmed by her.
I hope this helps you 1step. I hope your surgery goes well, take care x[/QUOTE
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Hi Mona, it does make sense ( I suppose).. it's just hard for me to see what the big deal in saying " sure, I'll miss you"..especially because she has said it in the past. I'm sure you've seen my posts on my relationship with my therapist and for the most part it is good. But what I do not understand is how she encourages me to be vulnerable, she constantly refers to her clients as if they are her children, she will always include " of course you're not a child", she invites me to feel everything that I'm feeling, yet when I begin to give in to this process she pulls back, sets up these ridiculous boundaries.. it feels like a game of cat and mouse. Is this typical in the therapeutic relationship?
Have a good night : )

Thank you! I'll see her in about three weeks so I'm fairly certain this will come up!

Thanks for the well wishes. : ) Honestly, I'm not sure I would have been prepared if she would have replied " no, I won't miss you"...that would hurt!
One of the reasons I find this forum so helpful is that there are so many different views and opinions. It kind of sort of soaked in that if she doesn't miss me it's not the end of the world, like you said it sucks but it is reality.

Thank you... you've given me some food for thought : )

Thank you!! : )

I thought about the possibility of her seeing it as a potential " transference problem". I get how a question like " will you miss me" might put a therapist on high alert.But here's the thing... it's not like that for me. Her saying " yes, I'll miss you" would not send me over the edge to where I took her reply way out of context and made it bigger than it would be. That's just not me. But perhaps my therapist felt like she needed to be cautious.. if so I wish she knew that it's not that serious! Thanks again : )

Hope your surgery goes well first off, I don't agree with the answer, In my oppinion, a yes is very simple, I've gotten yes when I have asked , I just asked once, I do.ask if she is proud , answer is yes, but , I asked my previous t and she said , of course silly. Unless there was a super attachment or boundary problem where they were working on detachment, I could see that, otherwise wise , just yes, would not hurt or hinder therapy. I didn't even understand what said.