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Oct 18, 2016, 01:13 PM
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A certain therapist decided to stop shaking my hand. But he didn't discuss this with me, didn't explain that he had changed his boundaries,,
He simply offered me a limp and .. Hand ... And complained that I made him feel impotent,   I'm such a failure 
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Oct 18, 2016, 01:58 PM
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What? I wouldn't like changing the hand shake, but to tell you that you make him feel impotent?!!
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Oct 18, 2016, 02:02 PM
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I wasn't "endearing" to him and I apparently used to be a "needy child" .. "Whose needs weren't met" .. The limits of "Interpretation" And no heart 
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Oct 18, 2016, 02:06 PM
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You should tell him you're not there to give him a boner and then fire him. What an asshat.
I'm so sorry this happened.
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#5
Oct 18, 2016, 02:14 PM
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This  What an asshole, I would kick his limp *** to the curb! |
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#6
Oct 18, 2016, 03:04 PM
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So sorry Fuzzy.
 Don't blame yourself for this. 
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Oct 18, 2016, 03:52 PM
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What the?????? Im so sorry
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Oct 18, 2016, 03:58 PM
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Sounds like his stuff and not anything to do with you (((fuzzy))).
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Oct 18, 2016, 05:53 PM
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We aren't here to entertain or please out t's. You deserve better. God I hope he has a supervisor
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Oct 18, 2016, 06:33 PM
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That is sooooo very wrong. What is up with this therapist. I agree with others the t is focusing on getting his needs met not yours T's are human but it's his responsibility to reach out to a supervisor, t's own therapist whatever to get his needs met Not expect them from you Big hugs fuzzy |
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#11
Oct 19, 2016, 10:10 AM
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Fuzzybear,
What the heck!?!? That was really inappropriate for him to say. What does that even mean? Was he implying something se*ual? Or was he saying that you make him feel ineffective? Webster's says the word impotent can also mean "lacking strength, weak, powerless." Will you ask him what he meant by that? I know I would have to ask because that would make me feel very weird and upset, and I would need an answer. I don't think I could just overlook it. Regardless of what he meant, it was still an inappropriate comment because your therapy is supposed to be about YOUR feelings, not how you make HIM feel. Grrrr...makes me mad! |
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Oct 19, 2016, 10:34 AM
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So sorry you had to hear that! There are no excuses for what he said, he made it about him and it's NOT about him.. his choice of words is extremely inappropriate.. I'd leave him like a bad habit, even if he offers you some half assed excuse.. the damage is done in that relationship as far as I'm concerned.. and it's his fault!! Onward bound to better!!👍👍👍
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Oct 19, 2016, 02:50 PM
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Im wondering if he meant the word in a different context then you do. here in my location impotent means unimportant in the general sense unless a conversation is of a sexual nature.
Im wondering if like some treatment providers here in my location.. he was using this definition as in now that you have the tools to take care of yourself he feels he is no longer needed, not so important in your life. that your therapy time might be winding down since you dont need him as often, and a handshake to send you on your way to thinking whether therapy and seeing him is a priority in your life, to have your time to decide whether you want to continue with therapy now that you have all the tools and dont need him as much any more. my suggestion contact him and ask him what he meant by that. ask him if he was making a sexual comment and gesture to you or whether he meant he is no longer as important to you, that you have all the tools you need now and can forgo therapy time with him if you choose to. |
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Oct 19, 2016, 06:53 PM
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That T is a failure, not you! (((((((((((Fuzzy))))))))))))))
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Oct 19, 2016, 08:23 PM
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My goodness. He does sound a little .... impotent.
How interesting that he feels -impotent- when around some people (in this case, you, but if something about you triggers that feeling within him you can rest assured that the feeling is already within him, just waiting to be triggered). I think you might have (have had?) an impotent therapist. I hope you have the opportunity to find a competent therapist, Fuzzy! |
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