[SoConfused623]

So I called my T this morning and was going to ask her to give me a couple of names of other Ts at their center and somehow we ended up agreeing to give it another shot! She knows about my connection to the Center and my desire to keep my current p-doc and I said something like I really appreciated that she did a few of things that I wanted her to do before I even told her I was terminating. And next thing I knew, we had decided to give it another try...

She agreed to meet with me on Jan 9th and then let me take the rest of Jan off as well as Feb so that I can focus on my work and get off to a good start this year.

I feel really relieved and my T seemed really happy that I was coming back. I know that she really likes me since she said a lot of nice things when I terminated earlier in the week.

I just hope that it all works out! I also wanted to share some of the things that make her a good T so that you all don't think I'm crazy for going back She's very easy to talk to about everything including sex, and she's always 100% focused on me exclusively. She is completely non judgemental, always on time, only canceled once in more than 2 years etc...Lots of really good things!

I just don't like the black slate, but she was more open with her vacation plans than ever before and even admitted that she usually lightens up after a year or so and that she knew that she wasn't as open with me since I had researched her online. Lastly she said she regretted what happened and would do things a little differently in retrospect.

My fingers are crossed!

I hope it goes well for you!!

[velcro003]

That is great to hear. It sounds like she is willing to listen to negative feedback and improve upon it. That is a good sign in a T, I think.

[brillskep]

Good luck!

[Out There]

Originally Posted by velcro003

That is great to hear. It sounds like she is willing to listen to negative feedback and improve upon it. That is a good sign in a T, I think.

This. Sounds good to me that your T has looked at things in the way she has.

[SoConfused623]

I just hope that I made the right decision....I also wish that I was seeing her before
Jan 9th! We have a lot to talk about and I don't want to wait!

[kecanoe]

I am glad she has said that she would do things differently. For me, when a person admits they were in the wrong it is easy to forgive.

At the same time, if you decide you made the wrong decision, you can always quit. Going back now seems like a good choice, if it ends up being the wrong one it is not irrevocable

That is a long wait. Perhaps you can use it to consider what things you really need her to change and what things you can live with. For me, when getting out of a relationship I tend to get very focused on the bad things, and even things that are no big deal get added to the list. What is vital to your continued growth?

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by SoConfused623

So I called my T this morning and was going to ask her to give me a couple of names of other Ts at their center and somehow we ended up agreeing to give it another shot!

...

I just don't like the black slate, but she was more open with her vacation plans than ever before and even admitted that she usually lightens up after a year or so and that she knew that she wasn't as open with me since I had researched her online. Lastly she said she regretted what happened and would do things a little differently in retrospect.

My fingers are crossed!

You got an explanation and an apology.

Ask if she will do things a little differently IN FUTURE.

[junkDNA]

Possible trigger:

my T could probably stab me in the face and i would still go back to see him

wow that sounds so unhealthy. and its just like what happened with my former T, essentially

-_-

[SoConfused623]

Originally Posted by kecanoe

I am glad she has said that she would do things differently. For me, when a person admits they were in the wrong it is easy to forgive.

At the same time, if you decide you made the wrong decision, you can always quit. Going back now seems like a good choice, if it ends up being the wrong one it is not irrevocable

That is a long wait. Perhaps you can use it to consider what things you really need her to change and what things you can live with. For me, when getting out of a relationship I tend to get very focused on the bad things, and even things that are no big deal get added to the list. What is vital to your continued growth?

Thank you so much for this great advice!

[1stepatatime]

I'm happy that you will be able to continue with your therapist.. I hope it goes well for you : )

[SoConfused623]

Thanks everyone! I have to tell 3 of my friends this decision and I'm really nervous about it. I'm especially afraid to tell the one who referred me to her T. I don't want her to be mad or say that I wasted her T's time. I gave her T a week's notice that I was canceling the 3rd session with her and she was appreciative of that. I feel bad that the T wasted her time with the intake, but it's not like she did it for free as she still billed my insurance company for it. I just have a lot of trouble with confrontations in general and telling my friends who have been so supportive and feeling like they'll be mad or disappointed is really bothering me! Ugh