[Loco4]

Okay. So I freaked out a little bit today and made a huge mistake

I was driving down the local main road and saw T walking from her office to the shop. I stupidly did a u turn and pulled into the shops. I drove right past her as I entered the car park. She likely saw me.

Then I went to my parents house (where I was heading anyway) and saw T again walking along the creek near their house. She was obviously taking walk for her lunch break.

I'm worried she recognised my car... A few months ago I waited in my car to see her one night. I told her about this and she was understanding.

We have been really connecting lately and therapy is really helpful. I'm going through a divorce at the moment and am feeling a little fragile.

I'm concerned if she saw me, she might get freaked out. I'm worried it will change the way she treats me. We hugged for the first time last session, and I would like to do it again. I'm concerned I may have ruined it for myself.

[Demunie]

Loco, try to calm down. Do you life in a tiny town? It can happen that we bump into our T.

Can you message/email her and let her know that you weren't there because of her?

She was understanding when you waited in your car to see her. Why should she freak out because you saw her "by accident?"

[Loco4]

Because I turned around and tried the 'bump into her' the first time.

[Loco4]

I don't live in a small town. T and I both work and live in like a 15km radius. We have bumped into each other randomly a few times.

Maybe make it a goal for the future that if you see your T, you don't act on urges to "accidentally" bump into her.

I understand why you're upset though. I would use this as a learning tool and try to move forward. I'd hate for your T to let you go because you step over boundaries. Hugs.

[chasse]

Do you think there a reason why you feel the urge to see her out of the sessions and put yourself in the situation of bumping into her?
Is it curiosity? hope to have a conversation out of therapy? Want to connect more often than your sessions.
I don't think you are wrong or anything for this a T can have so much positive power over your life and we develop strong bonds.
if you are aware that you live and work close to each other then there will be times you cross paths. I think that it would be good to work out what boundaries you will place on yourself when your paths cross.

I dont know where my T lives but she works near my house thats why I chose her. I have seen her in public 2 times in 6 years. Once in the supermarket and once in a restuarant with her family. In the supermarket I stopped to say hi and when I saw her with her family I just pretended that she wasnt there.

Your T might think that you are seeing her by coincidence but she also may think that you are following her.

I am sorry that you are going through a divorce that must be really difficult. It can be really tricky especially if you have kids i dont know if you do or not but i have seen how hard it is for my best friend to go through divorce with kids. Maybe your feeling that you need to make an extra connection to T because the instability of your marriage ending.
either way hugs.