[silenthill]

i need help,i'm in a mess with may T, i'm scared to say to much about her.i just have no where to ture

Hi. Welcome to PC!

You are a mess with your T? Well you have come to the right place!

If you are scared to say much about your T, that's ok. Maybe spend some time reading over the forum... possibly it will help you become more comfortable in talking about what's going on As you can see a lot of us are very open about the issues surrounding our relationships with our therapists... and because of that we receive immense support.

So come on in, take your time..... get to know us.

welcome silenthill. Glad you found PC. Feel free to talk as much as you feel comfortable. We are here to support you.

[bipolar_bear]

Welcome silenthill. Post as you feel comfortable.

BB

[MissCharlotte]

Welcome,

We are ready to listen whenever you are ready to talk!

Welcome SilentHill

[silentlyscreaming]

Welcome silenthill.

We are all more than happy to listen, when you are ready to talk.

[ECHOES]

Hi and welcome! You can turn right here and talk about anything and everything you would like to talk about. Our ears and arms are open to you.

[lauren_helene]

Welcome aboard! When you're ready let us know

[Gracey]

Welcome silent.

[silenthill]

thank you all for the welcome, and giveing me time.

can i ask has any ones T ever lied to you?

i feel very used by my T, i have been helping her,and well i'm lost sorry

[debbie_tabor]

I don't think I have been lied to by my T. It sounds like your life is more difficult through seeing your T than it was before. Would you like some support to leave this T and find a new one?

[debbie_tabor]

That question might be too heavy for you at the moment. But it doesn't sound like a comfortable situation at all. See what others have to say, and keep talking to us.

[silenthill]

yes i want to leave her,and i know i need to run not walk.but i'm in so deep with her,and she knows that, she knows i have no one i can turn to, yes i care about her and still feel i need to help her

any help would be so welcome

[debbie_tabor]

A good suggestion made to me was to find another therapist while you're still seeing this one. That way you can build up trust in someone else and you will have someone else to turn to.

Can you say more about how you're in so deep?

I realise you care for her, but can you see that as a client a) she shouldn't have put you in this situation in the first place, and b) you aren't responsible for her well-being. Does it look to you as if she has no other means of support? This is irrelevant other than the fact that it makes it feel harder for you to break away.

[silenthill]

i let her have crait cards, alot of $,she knows i have no way out , i'm in DV

[debbie_tabor]

What's DV?

[debbie_tabor]

I'm sorry I don't know what DV is and it may have bearing on the rest of what I say. This sounds like a thoroughly abusive situation which is damaging to you. You may need to be very strong for your own sake, and report your therapist, and get official help in extricating yourself from the situation. There are other members of PC who have been in abusive situations who may be able to give you helpful advice and let you know who you can turn to. Know that you have our support in your difficulties.

[silenthill]

its domestiic violence

[sunrise]

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i let her have crait cards, alot of $,she knows i have no way out , i'm in DV

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silenthill, are you saying she is extorting money from you? That is illegal. If she is doing something illegal, can you contact the police, or seek free legal advice at a local university or law school?

[ECHOES]

I'm not sure what you mean when you say you are 'in' domestic violence. Can you say more?

Therapists help clients, not the other way around.

What keeps you from leaving her?

Does this relationship seem similar to your abusive relationship(s) in the past?

What do you mean by you feel the need to still help her? It's one thing to feel you have to help your T in some way-- lots of us get those feelings-- but it sounds as though you really did "help" her and now you are feeling some sort of obligation or even fear. You are giving her money? Are you aware of your rights as a patient? There are places that you can turn, things you can do to report her. Please tell us more if you can... maybe we can help.