[laxer12]

I have an appointment this afternoon but I'm upset with my T so I don't really want to go. I'm not one to no show or cancel last minute so I'm going to go, I just don't really want to talk when I'm there. The thing is that she did (well, I guess didn't) do something very minor but I'm taking it way harder than I should...

I try not to email T throughout the week because I don't want to get comfortable with that or overstep boundaries but she told me it's completely okay to do so. On Monday I emailed her saying I wanted to talk about something specific this week that I probably wouldn't bring up unless I emailed ahead of time so she could bring it up. I also asked a question about our scheduled appointment time for next week. I never got a response from her and I'm sure it is just because she was busy or thought we could talk about both of those things during the session but it hurts not getting a response...

The email was so insignificant but I feel rejected and forgotten and like I don't matter enough for her to take 1 minute to respond to me with two sentences. I feel this way a lot when people ignore me and I'm really good at giving them plenty of time to respond (in this case, a few days) but I lose trust when it happens.

The fact that I'm so worked up about something so little like this makes me feel like something is really wrong with me and I'll never be able to have a comfortable relationship with someone. When this stuff happens, I feel like I don't matter. Who would want to be friends or marry someone who feels so rejected and hurt over something so small?...It makes me feel really hopeless.

I have attachment issues and I'm honestly not sure those issues can ever be fully resolved or worked through.

People will probably reply "oh she was probably busy, or doesn't check her email, blah blah blah." but I think these sort of things are huge to those of us that are in therapy for attachment /trust/abandonment issues.
I hope you can tell her just how much it hurts.
I'm fortunate that I have a T that acknowledges all contact in a timely and respectful manner. I'm sorry others do not always get that

[Daisy Dead Petals]

FWIW, you are not alone in these issues. I am really struggling right now because my T wants to change the day of the week that we meet. I know how hard it is to so easily feel rejected. I hope you can discuss this with your T. Take care.

[laxer12]

Originally Posted by _Mouse

People will probably reply "oh she was probably busy, or doesn't check her email, blah blah blah." but I think these sort of things are huge to those of us that are in therapy for attachment /trust/abandonment issues.
I hope you can tell her just how much it hurts.
I'm fortunate that I have a T that acknowledges all contact in a timely and respectful manner. I'm sorry others do not always get that

She literally just replied to me and it was the exact same two sentences I was looking for and probably took her less than a minute to type up.

But now the frustration is gone...I makes me so mad that I can be so quick to forgive when I was upset less than an hour ago...

Attachment issues suck so much. I get so frustrated with myself over it all. I know I'm trying to work through it all and I should be patient but it's exhausting.

[Monarch Butterfly]

I'm glad your T replied

I feel the same way. If they don't reply I feel rejected. I feel this way due to no support, emotional abandonment and abuse in my past.

Originally Posted by laxer12

She literally just replied to me and it was the exact same two sentences I was looking for and probably took her less than a minute to type up.

But now the frustration is gone...I makes me so mad that I can be so quick to forgive when I was upset less than an hour ago...

Attachment issues suck so much. I get so frustrated with myself over it all. I know I'm trying to work through it all and I should be patient but it's exhausting.

I am glad she replied and can totally relate to that feeling of being patient but it's difficult

Definitely tell her how you felt even if transiently, it sounds like it carries important information on how you work.