[Sarmas]

I'm having a major issue today and I'm a bag of nerves. I've had issues in the past with emailing or texting my T. I don't want to do so because it became a problem before. I don't want her to think That I'm crying wolf or that my issue is not important enough to send an email.

I was at work today and my kids were at home. My oldest is 16 and my other is about to be 12 next month. Someone came to the door and started banging really hard. They banged a couple of times and then left. My kids didn't want to anbserr the door and didn't want to go to the window. They got in touch with my next door neighbor to ask if he heard banging or if he had any banning and he said no. My oldest looked out and thought he saw a cop car leaving. He was unsure of who knocked. We are always on the verge of going to court for custody. My ex has something planned and we never know what to expect. We don't know if now he's come up with something else that I have to defend myself to and now they're afraid. I go to work tomorrow again and my nerves are shot. I'm actually afraid of the unkown and I always think the worst. I was about to write an email to my T but decided not to.

Now this is eating me up inside. I'm afraid of going home. I have to go home tonight. I'm not sure what to do. She might not even answer. Who knows what will happen from here until wed. I don't know I'm just scared.

[chihirochild]

Yikes--that sounds scary and stressful and awful

I'm not sure what to tell you about emailing your T. I haven't been around PC long enough to know what your T's email boundaries are, but if you have had issues with emailing this T too much and she set a firm boundary (like "please don't email me outside of session"), then I think you shouldn't. If she said "only email me if it is an emergency," then that's tricky... does that mean an emotional emergency, or does that mean like "if death is imminent?" If she set a loose boundary, you could just email her and say "I'm not sure if this is an okay thing to email you about, but this is what happened ....." and if it's not an okay think to email her about she'll tell you (and hopefully make her boundaries more clear) and then you won't do it again. No harm done, right?

I'm sorry this is happening

[AllHeart]

Can you call the police and ask them if they stopped over today?

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by chihirochild

Yikes--that sounds scary and stressful and awful

I'm not sure what to tell you about emailing your T. I haven't been around PC long enough to know what your T's email boundaries are, but if you have had issues with emailing this T too much and she set a firm boundary (like "please don't email me outside of session"), then I think you shouldn't. If she said "only email me if it is an emergency," then that's tricky... does that mean an emotional emergency, or does that mean like "if death is imminent?" If she set a loose boundary, you could just email her and say "I'm not sure if this is an okay thing to email you about, but this is what happened ....." and if it's not an okay think to email her about she'll tell you (and hopefully make her boundaries more clear) and then you won't do it again. No harm done, right?

I'm sorry this is happening

She never said not to email her. Before my 6 month break she was annoyed with it a few times. I decided on my own not to do so. Like you said I don't know what she would consider a worthy email. Perhaps to her this isn't worthy enough . I'm stressed and so are my boys. Even my boys are asking me to not park the car near the house.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by AllHeart

Can you call the police and ask them if they stopped over today?

I've never thought of that.