Afraid to swear in therapy

I have a fairly new T and i havent sworn in front of her yet except when i read a letter from my old BF where he said the f swear. She didnt even flinch. I dont really swear much at all but if i wanted to i would, and i wouldnt even think twice about it.

I would assume that therapists would want you to be your true yourself in that room so I think it's ok, especially if it shows your emotions. My T was the first one to swear so I knew it was ok. Maybe that is why he did it. To show me he is human just like me and that's what we do at times. I don't usually swear, I might have said I feel like S..t when he asked me what I was feeling but usually don't get angry but in pretty sure they are ok with it and even expect it.

I was afraid at first to swear with my current therapist. I guess that was the beginning of the paternal transference for me. So when T dropped the first F bomb, I knew it would be okay.

Neither of the therapists I've seen swore on their own.

However, both have valiantly tried to do the mirroring thing when I swore -- various f, b and c words.

With current T that just irritated me because it was obvious mirroring -- so, I upped it by getting into mofo territory. She stopped trying to mirror me at that point.

Just say what you like. She might flinch, but so what?

I say swear if you want to! Like everything else in therapy, your therapist shouldn't judge and should be accepting. It's almost certainly something your therapist has heard before.

Due to proper manners instilled in me from childhood, I apologized for swearing in front of short lived therapists #1 and #2-- both of which said it wasn't a problem at all. Current therapist, I decided I didn't care + he was from NYC until recently and figured it wasn't anything he hadn't heard before. Turns out I was right, he's never flinched at the occasional swear word. I swear a fair amount, I feel like sometimes it's the best way to express my emotions.

Same here. I am an "impactful swearer". I work in an office where swearing in meetings is not unusual, especially from a few particular people. As a result, it means nothing if one of them swears. If I ever lead with an expletive, side conversations stop and I have every ear. I might swear in therapy if I need to make a point. I suspect any swearing I or my new therapist do will be on the tame side, just D/H but probably not S/F.

I use whatever words I need, and sometimes there is just no adequate substitute for a well-placed curse word. My T used to use certain swear words (s**t or sh*tty, mostly) but never others (f-word). Occasionally I would purposely use the f-word just to see if I could get her to "mirror" it back to me. It never worked. Now that she is in private practice, though, she has loosened up a bit and has used to f-word on at least three occasions. Every time it happens I feel totally gleeful, which I recognize is completely silly.

This is a great one to answer today. I swear ALL the time. I'm from a huge Italian family and I started dropping the F-bomb at age 3. T loves this about me, and he swears like a sailor too. I have never said g-d damn in therapy though but today it started to happen. I caught myself in the middle and T said (loudly), "Don't censor! You can say g-d damn as loud as you want!" I started to giggle and then proceeded to tell him that he needs to just chill out sometimes, be lazy, watch some g-d damn tv and relax. Then at the end of the session I gave him a card that said "You're f**king awesome!" on the front. He had a field day with that. (I'm a huge fan of all things Calligraph**k!)

I say if you feel like it will help you bring your point across...do it! They have heard it all before!

Yeah I swear, more frequently the more comfortable I got!

I am not much of a swearer in my day to day life. They are still shocking to my ears, but I am trying to overcomethat. A handful of s and b words have come out this year when I saw my therapist and I wrote a poem for a therapist about my parents that was littered with swear words. My therapists may have said one once.

Most of the ts I've had let me swear as long as I'm not swearing at them.

I swear in therapy.. not often, but when it comes out it because it's needed. T on the other hand, rarely swears unless he is repeating what I had just said.

Sometimes I swear just to hear him say it.. lol

I honestly tend to. Therapist tends to use the same words back.

I don't swear.
T swears sometimes, and i ADORE it.
Because... that means he's a human