How does your therapist respond when you get upset at them?

My co-therapists became hysterical and insulting when I wanted to leave group therapy. I was never rude. They were vicious.

Years later, I criticized a book psych textbook on Amazon, arguing it was condescending, backing my assertions with examples. Two colleagues and the author tried to nullify and discredit my opinion, one with a ferocious string of name-calling (he later somewhat softened when I reflected back his spite.) Clients in the discussion understood my viewpoint well. The professionals resisted all feedback.

Admittedly, I have a narrow a window on the larger universe of mental health providers. But I've experienced people very much self-serving and protective of their dominion.

Both mine have been very calm and not at all defensive but I wouldn't say chill. They both feel if something like this happens both T and client are contributing to it. It's been very healing for me for it to happen. But sadly we see here quite often that T's aren't up to it.

Mine has been very relaxed about it. Sometimes he admits fault, sometimes he just Absorbs my anger, and once he said we both played a part in the upset, which was very helpful. I'd never been in a situation like that where it didn't involve blaming one party or the other. It was really helpful to see how we could both take responsibility.

His being chill with my upset has been very powerful and helpful.

I chose "something else" because while she doesn't get angry or emotional, I wouldn't describe her as calm or chilled out, either -- more like concerned, she listens intently and is worried (about what she's done, about if she's hurt me). I don't get angry at her very often.