How to accept help/therapy?

how do you guys accept therapy/trust in your therapist? (That they'll be able to help you) I'm struggling to trust that this will work if I try and I know I should want to try and feel better, but I'm so skeptical about it. I either think my issues aren't big enough/workable or that I'm not being heard (which is probably irrational), so I have a hard time trying what my T advises or gives me as homework. Any tips?

I know exactly what you are saying & feeling. I can only say that you need to give yourself time. It's not a quick fix process & building trust is MASSIVE!!! My advice is to stay with the process, but do what feels right for you. It's not a race to the finish posts & in your own time, you will share what you can. Good luck, it does get easier.

Thank you I have such huge trust issues and I feel like she'll just leave me hanging, even though I know that's so unlikely. And some things (like my ED) I don't want to change because that's what drives the whole thing but I know I should want to change and recover from it. It's tough but I do hope it gets better thanks

if i truly trust him

I have felt the same way. It helped me to actually bring it all up in a session and talk through it with T. I still only trust him maybe 85% but that is more than I trust most people. Just take your time and be patient with yourself.

I struggle with this too. Therapy is a very weird relationship. Because the only person i can talk to about all this stuff is somebody i'm PAYING to talk to me. She's listening because i PAY her to listen. And it's somebody who is basically a stranger, you just met a short time ago. And somebody you know very little about but we are expected to tell them EVERYTHING, including the really deep, dark things we've never told anybody. Yep, still feels very weird to me. But i keep going.

It's so confusing! And I logically trust the system and how it is shown to work and that therapy is proven to help, but I don't see it working for me because I can't seem to emotionally trust the system for some reason. And I'm so closed off to other people that I can only talk to her, but even with her I'm so uncomfortable sharing darker things

How long have you been seeing this therapist?

Long story (which I'll share if you want to know more) but i started my therapy experience on talkspace.com. I was WAAAAAYYYY too scared to talk to somebody in person so that, for me, was a good way to start. The safety of the anonymity allowed me to tell my therapist stuff i never thought i could admit. There are other "chat" oriented therapy sites as well.
After a few months, though, she realized i needed more therapy than what can be gotten via that venue so now I am seeing a local therapist in person. Still weird, still kind of new, still building relationship, but I show up every week. I feel like a failure at it still but she supports me.

It's hard for me to trust people as well. I usually have a pretty good sense of who to trust and who not to trust. I've been seeing my T for years and I know that her intentions are good .she has a a pretty good sense of how I work. I trust what she has to say but I find it hard at times to follow her recommendations. It's not because of her but because of what the changes and adjustments I have to do in my life in order to do so. Carrying it out is sometimes an issue. There are times that I find it hard to carry out her recommendations from one session to the next. It's not about her but me. Other times what she recommends I can't do because I keep her in the dark about certain things. I want to be more open but I still find it difficult when it comes to certain subjects.

I've only been seeing her for about 5 months now? And usually every 2 weeks but I want to go every week but I'm too afraid to ask (which is so dumb like I'm literally there to get over those sorts of fears of rejection) so like I have a hard time trusting her and trusting the system or that she's judging me and she's so healthy and seems so normal so I think I am trash compared to her hahaha it's a mess

Yes! I feel you on this, I'm so untrusting so I haven't been able to tell her things so she doesn't even know what's ACTUALLY bothering me the most and thinks my biggest issue is my family so it's hard to take her advice when I don't think that making changes to those things will help me out since they aren't that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things

I totally get what you are saying because in in the same boat. I hold back the real import at things and what is really going on. We touch on other things but the underlying things is the true issue. That's what she's unaware of. I can't really talk to her about it because she will judge me eventhough she says that she won't. I have a pretty good sense of how she lives her life and what she would consider acceptable or not. She's really trying right now and she wants to help but i can't speak and she's not asking the right questions but they'd okay because she's not psychic. My past is an issue now and my present is complicated. Her recommendations are great but I struggle with it and I don't want to disappoint her and make her feel like she's not making a difference. I'm struggling. I see her once a week and I just go with the flow. There are times that I was going to try to fill her in in my difficulties and then I remember all of the clients that she has and how she must be busy and overwhelmed. Then I think that why involve her and that I'll just deal with it on my own. It's complicated. So we end up talking about generalized things or focusing on something but never getting to the root of the issue because I won't take it there.

You just put my EXACTA feelings into words!! I care too much to burden her with my darker stuff but I know that that's her job and it's this awful cycle

You would figure that it's what they get paid to do. I have this whole feeling of its my issue and not hers and does she really care to hear anyway. I prefer to keep it to myself. I'llNolet others fill her ear with things.