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Could you call your insurance company and tell her she didn't perform therapy on either of those days? I dont see how she can bill the insurance company if she didn't do any work.

I think a lot of therapists don't know very much about treating traumatized people, at least from my experience. I don't know why. It's very strange to me as well. But I would really seek out someone who does understand it and knows how to deal with it - I think therapists who don't can be very dangerous.

I cant believe this profession is taken seriously.

In this case, doesn't seem like a training issue. Does a therapist really need to be taught that a serious email from a client necessitates something other than silence? What planet are these people from?

yeah, this one baffles me too ... ??? my ex-T did similarly. it's as if there is no room for plain and simple 'ol common sense or simple human compassion in the therapy space at times. it's as if every interaction has to either be contrived, manipulated, or completely over analysed. guess that justifies is why it is called therapy and you can be charged $200 per hour.

this is completely spot on, here today. those, including Ts, who do not have an understanding to early attachment issues, developmental trauma, and dissociated states can be quite ignorant to how simple everyday things can be emotionally dysregulating or triggering to those who have experienced those kind of early traumas. although they may not purposefully set out to do so, their ignorance results in causing more harm than good because of this lack of understanding.

Cptsdann: i am sorry that your T has done these things to you. i don't like to advise to people that they should leave their T and look for a new one, that is completely up to you. but what you should know is that i tried to work with a T who had no real trauma training and thought i would be ok...because everyone kept saying that it is the relationship that heals. well, the relationship did not heal me, and there is a reason my T is my ex-T now. if i could go back and do things over, i would have seeked out a proper trauma T and i do wish that my ex-T, even though it would have been quite painful at the time, that he would have referred me one to one instead of trying to be my rescuer.

Thank you everyone for all your support. I think a lot of you are right regarding finding a new T. The sad part is..... she is a trauma T, my very first and hopefully not my last. I'm not sure I want to trust this process again. I think I have a lot to think about, that's for sure

My Pdoc would never respond to anything of magnitude via email, nor would he instigate the conversation on my behalf about something like child abuse. This leaves him with no recourse. Because by even acknowledging the email he would be bringing up the topic, not me.
Hope that makes sense.
Sorry you felt so low. Take care,

On the other point, are you saying she billed you for the appointment you didn't turn up too?!
I mean you said you cancelled, yes?
That I don't get, unless she hadn't got round to amending her billing, still. A bit sloppy.
Once again I am sorry to hear that you have felt so let down. All the best.