[shakespeare47]

I've been with my current counselor for almost a year. I was reflecting about our sessions and it appears that she has a strong opinion about my being involved with groups of people. I have mentioned that her life sounds exhausting to me (she is always dealing with people, has 3 kids who are involved with sports, etc), and I'd like to have fewer people in my life, and be involved with fewer groups.

But, she keeps pushing me.

I guess I don't get it. If my personality is such that I don't like being involved with groups, why can't she just accept that?

Is there some rule [thou must be involved w/ groups of people] someone forgot to tell me about?

[Out There]

I don't react well to this sort of pushing , although I have joined in with more things and have enjoyed it. It has to be what you want to do though. I don't appreciate anyone including T's trying to mould my life to their liking. Talk to your T that you don't like it ? I did.

[magicalprince]

She definitely shouldn't be pushing you. That is her own judgments that she should not be making about your therapy and your situation.

my first therapist pushed me like that. she could not seem to undrstand that being around a lot of people just drained and frustrated me. she pushed me hard to be part of groups. i hated it. she would get mad at me when i would cancel or quit the stuff she guilted me into doing,

I would politely say no thank you, that's not for me! I think she is projecting her expectations of herself and others onto you! I would appreciate anyone trying to get me to do something I wasn't comfortable doing. Therapists should not be pushing clients to do anything they don't heave enough self support for.