[Sarmas]

I was going to speak to my T about a comment she made in the last session. I said that I have so much in my head that I want to share and that sometimes I wish she was psychic and could read my mind but then again I need my own privacy and there are certain things I don't want her to know.

She paused and looked away and said I wouldn't want to know that would be too much information for me. I wouldn't want to know.

She was serious and she said it a non joking matter.

I took that as if I'm thinking of bad things or I don't know what.

How would you interpret that?

[toomanycats]

I would take it to mean that it would be overwhelming for her to be able to read minds. It would be a lot to take in, process, figure out what is OK to talk about without the other person saying. It would be too much information to try and process.

[nottrustin]

I would interpret it as you have a lot on your mind and it would be overwhelming with everything I her head. Doesn't mean that everything is bad that is in your or head just a lot

[southernsky]

I don't think that was any kind of criticism of you personally. I think she meant it more in the sense that everyone has private thoughts that they would never share with others and that if any of us knew ALL the private thoughts of another person we'd probably find out things that would make us feel uncomfortable because those thoughts were never meant to be public knowledge. I think I'd feel uncomfortable if I could read ALL the thoughts of another person - even someone I was very close to. Even my husband probably thinks of things that I am better off not knowing about.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by southernsky

I don't think that was any kind of criticism of you personally. I think she meant it more in the sense that everyone has private thoughts that they would never share with others and that if any of us knew ALL the private thoughts of another person we'd probably find out things that would make us feel uncomfortable because those thoughts were never meant to be public knowledge. I think I'd feel uncomfortable if I could read ALL the thoughts of another person - even someone I was very close to. Even my husband probably thinks of things that I am better off not knowing about.

Thanks. I get what you're saying.

[Electric76]

Well there's two big statements there. You have a lot in your head, so much that you wish she could just "download" the file of facts maybe so you can deepen your work...then the other piece around needing to keep a boundary. Being a therapist myself I would have a lot of interest in the first half. Not only does it give insight into your mind, but makes me wonder how to best work with this in the room. It would need to be a conversation however, not an assumption on which parts to focus on.

So as this is running through my mind, and the privacy/boundary statement comes up afterwards, the privacy part stands out because it was the last thing said and I forgot what flashed in my mind in the first half. The looking away for me is mentally rewinding to the beginning of what you said. Or maybe she was afraid of how she was coming across, like if she was probing too much. Looking away could have been checking in with herself about that. Not saying she experienced all of this, but just other perspectives

[Teddy Bear]

Your t doesn't want to know everything. Just what is nessicsary in helping you.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by Electric76

Well there's two big statements there. You have a lot in your head, so much that you wish she could just "download" the file of facts maybe so you can deepen your work...then the other piece around needing to keep a boundary. Being a therapist myself I would have a lot of interest in the first half. Not only does it give insight into your mind, but makes me wonder how to best work with this in the room. It would need to be a conversation however, not an assumption on which parts to focus on.

So as this is running through my mind, and the privacy/boundary statement comes up afterwards, the privacy part stands out because it was the last thing said and I forgot what flashed in my mind in the first half. The looking away for me is mentally rewinding to the beginning of what you said. Or maybe she was afraid of how she was coming across, like if she was probing too much. Looking away could have been checking in with herself about that. Not saying she experienced all of this, but just other perspectives

I'll be honest. When I saw her reaction my first thought was that she thought I have weird thoughts. Basically it made me feel as if my thoughts were a bad thing. I guess I could be wrong.

[88Butterfly88]

Disclaimer- I interpret things weird. If it was my t I'd think she was psychic and doesn't want to admit it to you.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

Disclaimer- I interpret things weird. If it was my t I'd think she was psychic and doesn't want to admit it to you.

There was a time that she seemed afraid of me when she diagnosed me with bpd. I disagreed with her. She would get nervous and tell me to sit of I was standing and getting settled. If I was going to throw something out she would ask me what I was doing. Now she's not scared anymore which is great. Who knows what she thinks I think of her. Whenever I tell her how I think about her or perceive her she makes a remark. That's the only thing I was thinking why she reacted the way she did. I was curious to know but I guess I won't find out because I took a break.

[Sunflower123]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

I would interpret it as you have a lot on your mind and it would be overwhelming with everything I her head. Doesn't mean that everything is bad that is in your or head just a lot

I agree. It was not meant in a negative connotation.