I am safe now, but attempted suicide (and failed) do I tell T?

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I wonder whether I NEED to tell my T this? What would be my reason? After all, I am alive. I didn't do it. I don't expect I will. I wouldnt know what to say. I guess I can't even class it as an attempt

As someone who has done this a few times myself, I believe it classifies as an attempt or at least very dangerous self harm. You don't need to kick out the chair to accidentally die from asphyxia.

I mean, I would encourage you to tell your therapist. I told mine.

you do need to tell someone. I know you are safe now but what if you'd knocked the chair. this was an attempt and should be treated seriously. stay safe

I agree that you need to tell T. Your T needs to know that your state of mind went to that place, where you were standing on the chair with the belt. Please stay safe.

I would need to text as not answering phone. I don't know what to say. I feel fine and not in crisis, just a bit messed up.

Could you say something like, "I was in a bad place last night and did something that I need to tell you about. But I don't know how to say it."

I dont want him to think im attention seeking.

I am in a really weird place.

Yes. A million times yes!!! Just come right out and say it ASAP!!

i just have no idea what to say.

"I attempted suicide and didn't succeed at it."

Say that.

As long as you aren't telling your T this, like, every week, he's not going to think you're attention-seeking.

I'm so sorry you were in a place where an attempt felt like the only option. I hope you are able to talk to your T about it so they can help you process through it. Even though you feel safe now, I think it's still extremely important to tell your T, because then if you ever feel this way in the future again, hopefully your T will have helped you come up with a plan for safety. Though I hope that you never have to go through this again
I like LonesomeTonight's idea of what to text your T

Please tell your therapist. What you did was very scary and you almost succeeded. Please let her know exactly what you did as soon as possible.

Telling your t anything is a start. I would say go to the ER right now but I personally don't like how ER people treat those with mental illness. Does your employer have an employee assistance number? I was surprised how good mine was. They were calm and walked me through my options for emergency help

hi im glad it didn't work out

what caused you to do that?? does your T know you are struggling?? have they accused you of being attention seeking before? i suspect your T would not do that. even though you feel safe now and calm as a cucumber something is obviously not right. reach out to your T or anyone. someone needs to know

So sorry to hear you are in a bad place. How is your relationship with your t, I ask because I am concerned you are asking if you should tell them and that you didn't reach out for support before you attempted to hang yourself.
I feel so sad that you are so alone in this. I really encourage you to tell your t. This is not attention seeking it's the behaviour of someone who is hurting very deeply and feels like they can't tell anyone. My heart goes out to you. Are you still at risk tonight?

I'm glad you're still here.
I absolutely think it is not attention-seeking to tell your therapist. I would encourage it. Maybe your therapist can help you unravel the state of mind you were in at the time of your attempt and try to make a plan to prevent this from happening if you feel this way again. Your therapist's main job is to keep you safe and it will be hard for him/her to do this if they don't know this happened.
I know it will be hard to say but I think it is very important. I wish you luck and send hugs <3

I think you should tell your T, so you can work out a plan in case you have similar thoughts or feelings again.

Glad you are in a better place now, it reinforces to me that those thoughts always do pass.

Stay safe.

Sorry you're going through this. I've been there a lot, and it's always hard. The fact that you are working so hard to try to find the words says to me that you really want to share this with T, which is awesome. It could go a long way towards helping you stay safe.

Breaking the ice is always hard. When I read your posts I wondered if it would be easier to start with a question, like, "this is something we really haven't talked about before...but I was wondering if we could talk a bit about about how you work with people who are having thoughts about hurting themselves..." and sort of work up to it from there? That way you can ease your way into the hard stuff, gauge how comfortable you are feeling and build on it. You also give your T a chance to pick up the cue and run with it...

I'd always start there, because Ts can be incredibly helpful, but also sometimes can over/under react. I like to know what I am dealing with before I let a T into that part of my mind.

I'm so sorry things got so overwhelming you felt you didn't have another choice. But happy that you found a way out the other side. Well done x