WOW!!! He Forgot My Appointment Update

Hi all. After reading your responses to my post about the forgotten appointment , I decided to address it with T. The session started as it usually does. "Sooooo, what's going on? How was your week?" Not the right opportunity I decided. So I just decided to continue with the session. It went well and I felt good about it. It was getting close to ending time and he said "Same time next week good for you?"

AHHH, my opportunity has arisen, I thought. I replied "Yes, it is good for me, is it good for you?". He looked a little puzzled. I then said something about needing to discuss last weeks session. He waited. Then I told him that "I felt cheated and insignificant last week. That I was thinking about running for the door." He looked so sad. Apologized and almost cried. I saw a little sparkle in his eyes, you know, the first hint of a tear. Anyhow, he said how badly he felt about what happened and was happy that I brought it up. I went into the everyone makes mistakes thing and then said "I know I'm not the most important person in your Wednesday, but you are my most important person in Wednesday. I've been comming here for a year and I really just think you should remember." His eyes filled up with tears. He agreed. "It was wrong." He thought for a minute then said that he really didn't ever think to extend his first patients time if he was ever late. Really just thought about the other patients staying on schedule. Said he won't do it any longer. I joked that I didn't care what he did on any other days, just start doing it on Wednesdays. He laughed out loud. Said no, I will be doing it every day now.

Now it's time to go. He continued talking. I ended staying for another 45 minutes!!! I don't know if he will charge me for it or not, I don't care. It was the best 45 minutes I have ever had in therapy. We talked more about how I felt and then I said "It's done". He nodded with a sweet smile. Thankful I guess. If I ever wanted to hug him, it was then. We just looked at each other and then he said something about loving the time we have and wanting to be there for me. I don't even know what else he said, I think I blacked out!!! LOL.

I really feel good about it. I felt strong, didn't cry, and stated my case. That's something I have never been able to do. Maybe I have made more progress than I thought? Thanks to all of you for your kind words and support. I probably would have let it go, if not for you.


Peace

Now, that is beautiful. I must confess I kept picturing my T's face while reading the story!

wow, what a great session, bluebutterfly. How brave and self possessed of you to bring up the important topic you needed to discuss. And T responded so well, with caring and empathy, and took responsibility for his actions. What a successful moment in therapy for you both. And now your relationship is so much stronger and deeper.

Bluebutterfly, YOu handled that SO WELL! will you be my T? LOL

Hey Mouse. Sure I'll be your T. I'm great at other people's problems. I sure have had quite a bit of training in the last year!


Peace

That's great; what an unexpected "bonus" -- I hope you learned to raise significant discussion topics toward the end of the hour so you can get additional time, LOL!

Great job Blubutterfly. We sometimes see our docs as people we shouldn't challenge, as if they are not human like the rest of us.
Fortunately, I have been comfortable bringing up concerns I have with our relatiuonship with my t, but she is also very respectful so there really hasn't been anything significant.
Keep up the good work.

What excellent progress. Great job.

Butterfly,
That is wonderful! Congrats!

How brave of you. I am so glad you had the courage to bring it up. It sounds like you and he strengthened your relationship. I am happy for you.

BB