Least favorite words you hear from T/Pdoc

When expressing my difficulty juggling work, school, and family-

"Have you considered putting your dissertation on hold for a while? After all, all your kids are going to remember is that you were late to their baseball games."

-- I think my heart stopped for like 60 sec after hearing this.

"If you can't deal with not understanding, you should get a job as a street sweeper."

OUCH! I'm still angry about that. She totally did not understand what I was saying when she made that comment.

And how about, "That's just part of being ADD." Doesn't make me mad and it doesn't hurt, but it kinda closes down the topic of discussion.

"I'm calling to refer a patient-- she's borderline..."-- my 1st T calling a pdoc in my presence.

I did like this T a whole lot, but that was definitely not her best moment.

"before we begin i need to tell you something..." (means, im cancelling an appointment

"i cant because of boundaries"

"attachment"

many more i just cant think of

"Can I ask you something?"

NO.

lol, whenever he says this I always think he's gonna whip out one of my poems and start asking about erotic transference.

Hmmm... could that mean I have some?

"I am no longer going to accept insurance"

not that I have abandonment issues or anything, right doc? And thanks for the offer of a discount! With it, I would have spent 26% of my take home pay to see you once a week. Yup, one whole day of my salary to spend one hour with you. That's feasible, right??? Um...no. Not if I want to pay rent.

So, after all that time together it really does come down to just money. That's what I figured. I AM totally unlovable, totally leave-able, totally and absolutely worthless. Thanks for enforcing what I already suspected.

Campy (who is still apparently a bit emotional about this after a year)

pink, when he said that did you answer 'No"?

((( Campy )))

That would be so hard to get past!

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ECHOES said:
pink, when he said that did you answer 'No"?

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Yes I normally do, lol... Partially because I'm sarcastic and partially because I am afraid what he's gonna ask.

Lately, he's been saying, "what else?" when he wants a new topic from me.

I feel really threatened by that. It is new behavior from him. It makes me feel that our sessions are not proceeding fast enough for him and he wants me to get all my stuff out on the table. It makes me feel like we are speeding too fast through stuff and he doesn't consider what I bring up to talk about worth spending more time on, so he rushes me to move on to something else by asking, "what else?" He didn't use to do that. I wonder if lately I am bringing insignificant topics to him that he doesn't consider worthy of therapy time?

"Abandonment"

And today... "hospitalized". Scared the crap out of me.

Probably others, but this all I can think right now.

Would you like help with that?
Yes.
Would you see a therapist on staff that specializes in that?
NO.

OR

at the end of a session

What are you aware of?
I don't know how to answer that.

OR

We need to close.

"How many times did you throw up this week?" Yea like I'm going to tell you that.

"Baby steps" If I never ever hear that phrase ever again I'll be all the better for it.

"It's all a process" Grr...

I couldn't stand when she would ask me questions she always new the answers too. I know the point of therapy is to be able to comes to grips with whatever it is you struggle with but I wish she would have started with some words that were difficult for me to say and maybe that would have let me talk more. I don't know.

I'm in Iraq right now and I have to tell you...I miss therapy not because it was a comfortable one hour a week because Lord knows it wasn't comfortable at all but it was the one place in this world (in my world) anyway where it was ok to not be ok. I miss that. I'm so ready to get the heck out of here. Not sure if I'll return to therapy but some issues are definitely still not resolved so maybe I'll give it another shot and actually talk.

what do u want from us
and
ill refer u to a collegue.
i swear they have so many collegues! i dont wanna meet every dang body!!! and i want to get fixed. if i knew what needed to happen i wouldnt need yah duh!
rant over
wow short rant
tc all
self

actually i hate 'what else' too. its like what i say is not enough. ok, so im not a severe DID or bipolar case. so? thats good right?... i feel i have to comete to make my pain seem real. and i refuse to big all this shyt up just to reconcile my paranoia, but it makes it bloody worse.
take care all
self
oh happy bday kimmy btw

One time when I was having a depressive episode (lasted for over 2 years) my pdoc said "there are people out there who never get better." I spat back--"what, so I should feel fortunate I have only been depressed for 2 years?"

I know he was trying to encourage me by reminding me that I can get over the depression, but it just came out wrong.

From my ultimate favorite T who is with the angels..."I have cancer."

"My wife..."

I feel like saying, Why don't you just stab me?

Here is one I didn't care for last session...

1. Okay the meds may not be the right ones but weren't we trying to make your hubby okay in your mind by adding the mood stabilizer...

He meant because I'm so inconsistent on my feelings toward him...he's lucky I never got to this comment before our nice breakthrough moment started...giggle. I'll let this one go

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"My wife..."

I feel like saying, Why don't you just stab me?

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My T would never even try that one with me....

since I told him "I hate your wedding ring"

So I know how you feel. That would suck.

i terminated a while ago, but because we had nothing to talk about before that, she would ask me "where do you want to go from here?" or "what do you want to get out of this?" it's like I DONT KNOW!!! shes the T, she tell me! i have nothing to talk about! argh! that one always frustrated me. oh, and, "your dad wants to have a session with us". oh my god that one made me want to scream.