[wheeler]

Actually it's more of a confession. My T told me yesterday that she bought a new house and would be moving. So last night what did I do ? I went home and googled it and found the house. It's a beautiful $1.5 million dollar home, her husband is a very successful lawyer.

I feel so guilty and there's no one I can tell. I saw my T a little while ago but I couldn't say a word .

Thanks for listening

Oh my, that sucks. What feelings does it bring up for you cos just reading this I am thinking, life sucks sometimes. I would feel inadequate and like she could never understand me with that lifestyle.
My ex t was very rich too she sold lots of her business and was a millionaire but you would never that by talking to her, so I guess try not to judge t by her house or to judge yourself x

[wheeler]

Monalisa, that certainly one of my reactions. But I'm struggling whether to tell her or not. It's killing me. I was thinking maybe I could tell her a half truth and tell her what hyperthetically that I was thinking of doing this and I'm ashamed of thinking about it. I know ultimately I'm still lying to her but I need to figure out a way to tell her

I wonder what her intention was in telling you this, did she have to tell you or was she boasting? If it was the latter I would tell her that you did look it up and why wouldn't you? I know I would if my t told me they were buying a new house. I wonder did she want you to look it up

[MrsDuckL]

Dude, I've worked in mortgages for the past 15 years and I can find property info in a snap. I've googled my T's half mil house, found property records, valuations, etc. So don't feel bad, I think we all get curious. It's ok :-)

[Calilady]

My advice is to sit with those feelings and explore them on your own. Really identify with them and try to find the root as to where they are coming from. Once comfortable, you may be able to explore this with her. Good luck!!

[wheeler]

I'm going to try sitting with it and figuring what's going on with me. Right now I can't seem to get past wanting to tell her

[Calilady]

Originally Posted by wheeler

I'm going to try sitting with it and figuring what's going on with me. Right now I can't seem to get past wanting to tell her

I find that when I remove the stigma of whatever it is that I'm feeling, it helps to talk about it. Just a suggestion

I'd probably feel the same way and I struggle w/comparisons as well. I try to remember that money doesn't make you happy and I have no idea what goes on behind close doors. I like the lyric from a Regina Spektor song, "No one has it all."