[MissCharlotte]

Conversely there are those words or phrases we don't want to hear or deal with. Some of mine are:

constancy
rape
sex
annhilation
schizophrenia
abandonment

I'm
retiring
taking a new job at a hospital
closing my private practice, going to open holastic healing
practice
we are not a good fit, you need to look for someone else
I can't deal with your depression
there is no such thing as DID
taking a sabatical for a year

[Mouse_]

Mine was, "yes but you survived"

I still cringe when he says "sex."

"We're out of time for today." is the worst.

And I hate when he asks, "What do you think I'm thinking?"

'terminate'
'taking time off'

Oh yeah I forgot

"I'm not going to be here next week."

and

"attachment"

[ECHOES]

lol. I was thinking of this too, sister, when replying to your post about favorite T words.

It is when I am in crisis and she says to "Hang in there." I don't know what I want her to say, but I guess that isn't it. Probably it is "Hang on, I'll be right there!".

mouse, I also dislike the "you survived" that my previous T used to say. There is surviving... and surviving (thriving, I guess). It seemed kind of invalidating for some reason. Or like, yeah yeah well it's over now, move on. I know she didn't mean it that way, she meant that there was still something there, something to work with and life to appreciate and celebrate. But hearing that in the first or second session just didn't sit well.

My current T instead says frequently "It must have been so hard!" which is more validating and invites me to say more.

[Perna]

"Ah! You're stubborn." -- almost leaped across the space between us to hurt her on that one :-)

[Fuzzybear]

same words as you used.

also "end of the session"

"endearing"

"impotent" - re the T or pdoc

"you've got this far"

"cope"

there are more...

[tsha]

During a particularly bad time she said to me - do you think you should see someone else? I know she said it because she cares about me, but this struck terror in me.

"hospital"

[tsha]

I think we should go to the Emergency Room.

[Fuzzybear]

"you're well informed".... from a GP.

[(JD)]

Oh good thread!

Hmmm... I think something along the lines of "there isn't anything we can do about it" is one of the least favorite phrases.

It's when we run into a problem or issue concerning another person or system... and there it is.

[Fuzzybear]

Agreed!!

[MissCharlotte]

vacation
girlfriend
we have to stop now

"I'm sorry sister but that's just the way it is"

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[Fuzzybear]

You have a good figure....

From a different T... "you've put on weight".....

[sunrise]

When he uses the word "abuse" to characterize what I have been through.

"You are better than 90% of the people who walk through my door." I hated when he said this the first time and later variations on this theme. It made me feel he thought I didn't need to be in therapy, that I didn't need his help, that he didn't understand me because there was so much I had problems with and he didn't "see." We did talk about this once, and he explained more of what he meant, which was not so bad as I was interpreting (he meant that I was very honest and direct and easy to do therapy with; he didn't need to pull teeth to get me to speak or delve beneath the surface). He still says things like this regarding me and my husband (we have been in couples therapy with him). "You and your husband are better off than many divorcing couples I work with." Sometimes I feel like I get in a competition with other couples he works with to prove my marriage is somehow worse than other people's and therefore that this is a really painful and difficult experience for me. I hate that feeling of having to justify my pain.

Early in therapy, whenever he mentioned other couples he worked with in therapy or doing couples EMDR, I was terribly threatened and fearful and would just stop talking. I felt like by bringing up these topics he wanted me and my husband to see him for couples therapy (which we later did, lol) and I did not want to. And no way in hell was I ever going to do couples EMDR with my husband, so just don't even mention it! (and we never did, BTW)

[Fuzzybear]

"I hate that feeling of having to justify my pain"

"Since I'm going on vacation, I wanted to make sure I saw all of the sicker people this weekend." -- one of my prior pdocs in NY, during our appointment on a Saturday. He was a real %#@&#! piece of work.

Because I am DID... he said the following on more than one occasion.. still gets my dander up...

almost did leap the distance between us..

quote: "you know that you will come in here next week, in a different alter and feel entirely different.."
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR

That is the WORSE>>>>> it may be true.. but I DO not want to hear it.. not at that time... it's like saying.. hey.. your depression is meaningless.. cause hey change an alter.. ok all better... grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

everytime he says that I want to say "sxxx you"...

[Fuzzybear]

Oh how sweet!!! Yuck to him!

[bluebutterfly]

"Your H called me. He wants us all to meet."

My T is my T, if H needs a T, he can go find his own.


Peace

[mel4]

"we have to stop...."



PS. go mets! =]....i had to, now that pinkys got her profile decked out in phillies stuff!! =]