[Tbhimscared]

Sometimes I think my T is too nice to me. She doesn't put any pressure on me and doesn't push me to talk, so I don't even up opening up about anything. I know T's are supposed to be gentle and kind but at this point our conversations are still pretty surface level. My GP is very real and blunt so we get things over with and of course it's uncomfortable sometimes but she knows darker details about me than my T does. I need to be pushed in these situations because of how private I am.
Does anyone else feel this way?
How should I approach my T about this? Or should I get my GP to talk to her for me?

[InnerPeace111]

My suggestion would be to talk directly with your T about this very matter. I have a feeling you'd be shortchanging yourself in terms of learning and growth opportunities if you ask your GP to handle this matter for you. You can do this for yourself. Think of this opportunity as a gift you'd be giving yourself...a gift with a big pay out in the long run.

[Tbhimscared]

Originally Posted by InnerPeace111

My suggestion would be to talk directly with your T about this very matter. I have a feeling you'd be shortchanging yourself in terms of learning and growth opportunities if you ask your GP to handle this matter for you. You can do this for yourself. Think of this opportunity as a gift you'd be giving yourself...a gift with a big pay out in the long run.

I probably should mention it to her and be independent and handle my own things but I just don't think I can do it myself. I think that every time I go to say something about it I'll chicken out and ignore it completely

[growlycat]

I sometimes feel that I don't deserve the abundance of care I get from my t.

[Travelinglady]

She's probably hoping at some point that you'll feel safe and comfortable enough with her to open up.

[Lemoncake]

Originally Posted by Tbhimscared

I probably should mention it to her and be independent and handle my own things but I just don't think I can do it myself. I think that every time I go to say something about it I'll chicken out and ignore it completely

Sometimes for things I'm struggling to say, I write it down and message the day before my session. So I can't run away from it. Could you write things down and email them to her?

Can you write a letter about it? You can either read it out loud in session, hand it to her or (e)mail it to her.

[Moment]

I think being "pushed" to talk can be traumatic for some people. I guess my question is, why do you feel the need to be pushed? And why wouldn't you talk to your therapist about this directly? Therapy can be a good place to practice new ways of being, new skills. Maybe you could practice talking directly to your therapist about this, not necessarily the things you are reluctant to talk about, but rather this need you feel to be "pushed" and where that comes from...

[Tbhimscared]

Originally Posted by Moment

I think being "pushed" to talk can be traumatic for some people. I guess my question is, why do you feel the need to be pushed? And why wouldn't you talk to your therapist about this directly? Therapy can be a good place to practice new ways of being, new skills. Maybe you could practice talking directly to your therapist about this, not necessarily the things you are reluctant to talk about, but rather this need you feel to be "pushed" and where that comes from...

That's a good point, thanks! I try to bring things up on my own but even bringing up the fact that I need to be pushed sounds like an insurmountable task. I think I need to be pushed or controlled because I'm afraid of rejection or making someone else uncomfortable, even though it's my therapist and it's her JOB
I'm sorta stuck in a weird spot and not making much progress

[Daenarys]

I could've written this post and in fact did write one very similar a couple of weeks ago on here. I'm in therapy year n half and feel I haven't made much progress. She doesn't delve into anything deeper and I don't know if I trust her because I worry if she can trusty help.

I don't understand why we need to direct the T's?? When we are the ones that are lost?

It would be great if some therapists responded on here!

I have brought it up with mine already so it's really all you can do with yours.
Write everything you are feeling. And it's important to communicate that with her.

Good luck ��