If T and I went for a drive....

Hahahaha, Sunny this was just too great not to have its own thread.

If T and I went for a drive in my car right now, it would probably be a total disaster, lol. My car gets cleaned out about once every three months. It looks very nice when it does... but right now is not one of those times. I basically live out of my car because I am always driving back and forth between work, school, internship, and home. This requires a lot of clothing changes because I don't usually feel like going to school in my work/internship clothes... so if T was in my car he would say, "What the %#@&#!?" lol, there are like 4 or 5 pairs of shoes, a jacket or two, and I think there is even a pair of pants, hahaha. There are papers everywhere, my Freud finger puppet, and every time I use the brakes, about 73 Gatorade bottles roll from floor the of the back to the front, lol.

T and I wouldn't be able to hear each other because I would have my music blasting as I always do.

He would probably get a little scared because I tend to yell at people when I'm driving.

I would have no idea where to go because T would be in my car! So I would probably just keep circling the same city blocks over and over, stuck in traffic, beeping the horn and yelling.

In fact, if T and I went for a ride it would probably warrant 5 more years of therapy.

I think I would like it a lot more if T drove in his car.... down the Jersey Shore by the ocean. Yeah. And we just talked and talked and listened to Schubert. And I would have a blanket around me and a pillow, and it would be so comfortable. Yes, that would be much better.

I wouldn't be able to drive :-( and I wouldn't want T to drive because then her eyes would be on the road LOL and not me LOL

I'd like to go for a walk in her garden, and just walk up and down together and kick leaves and inquire about her upbringing, what was her mum like? what was childbirth like for her? how many sch friends did she have, what was her fav childhood game?

What makes her cry?

Oh I wanna cry now coz i'd really like to do this and all she'd say if I said all this is "and how does that make you feel?"

hahaha I also thought this deserved its own thread. Thanks gals.

If T and I went for a drive I would be driving my car. My car somewhat resembles PInk's. I have clothing all over. I know there's a sweater and a pair of slacks with a ripped knee (I fell the other day) in the front passenger seat, so I'd have to throw them over to the back. My HUGE bag would have to be moved also. I'd be embarrassed by the hairbrush and sneakers on the floor and the half full travel mugs of tea in the center console that might spill on him. Also, he's really tall and I have a small car so he'd have to put the seat waaaay back to fit. I would have to lower the volume on the stereo too. Geeze, where would we go?

I think I'd drive him crazy.

Seriously, though I think I would drive to a diner and I would order a greek salad or some soup and we would chat and linger for as long as we wanted. Then I would drop him off at his car and wave bye bye.

So, in our fantasies is it significant who is driving? I don't think I'm ready to go in his car with him.

I'd be anxious so my driving would suffer and I wouldn't be able to think of a destination. My T doesn't do "chit chat" so I wouldn't know what to talk about either. I use to get stuck on an elevator with her alone sometimes and that was hell, not being able to look at her and not having anything to say (including the basic "hello"). I can't imagine trying to perform a complicated action like driving at the same time! I'd flunk that test.

I just thought of something really funny

I have this habit of never closing my purse... I carry fairly large purses and I jam all sorts of stuff into them... and sometimes my purse tips over in the car and stuff falls out because it is never closed properly...

Well the other day I was driving my (male) friend home from school and he's about to sit in the car and then he picks up a pantyliner from the seat and he's like, "What the hell is this?" I wasn't embarrassed b/c I am very comfortable with this person and it was just really funny because I asked him, "What do you think it is?" And he's like, "It's like a maxi pad... but smaller... is it like an emergency pad in case you can't to the regular ones right away?" lol Then yesterday when I was looking under the seat for something I realized a bunch of tampons, pads, and pantyliners had fallen out of my bag. Can you imagine if T was in my car?? lolol

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hahahahahha lmao....are you sure it wouldnt be a bonding experiance? ya know? like tackling your car, together....?

Well, I have had a couple of driving with T fantasies, as I mentioned in the other thread. I'll repeat that a bit here.

The first was one day I had a rental car from the car dealership when my car was in for repair. The rental was a brand new royal blue Honda Element. It was cute as a bug, handled really well, made me sit up high, and I just loved it. I felt cool! Also, I was in the midst of my dopamine excited state from my experiment with Buspar, and I just felt a rush of that rewarding feeling every time I looked at the car. Anyway, I drove the car to therapy, and I wanted to tell T about it, bring him out into the parking lot, and share the car with him and my pleasure over it. I wanted us to go for a drive with him driving. I pictured us driving north along the lakeshore, and maybe even then going up in the area where he lived. I don't know why I thought that, but I did. I figured he would know the area really well. I could never share this fantasy with T. I think in part it stems from this dream I had about him and our cars (which I did share with him). We both have Hondas and in the dream we worked on them together, with T giving me instructions on how to make some of the repairs.

My second "car" thoughts were many months ago, when in session, T made a phone call about a meeting he had to go to right after my session. He was arranging a ride to it with a friend. "Be here at such and such a time, I can't be late," etc. And he told this friend where the meeting was, and it was on my way after session, and I believe he knew this. I always wondered if he was somehow hinting to me that he would like me to offer him a ride. This was early in therapy, and I just was not prepared to give T a ride anywhere. We would have to sit side by side in my car for a while! The passenger side of my car was a disaster! He would get crumbs on his pants and his feet would rest among a legion of dirty kleenexes and old food wrappers. What would we say?! Would it be awkward?! It was too much, too soon, lol. Now, I wouldn't hesitate to offer him a ride if this happened again, but back then, no way. I feel I know him now, so it would probably be OK. I would probably be very nervous and break some traffic laws. Hopefully, I wouldn't get us killed or anything. I have wondered what music I would play if we rode together, and I have a CD all picked out! T, I'm ready for ya! I think.

Heh - i have actually. We carpooled to a conference on Trauma and PTSD together. Naturally, I was a nervous wreck and glad she was driving. I didn't want to take up space and if I could have turned into a bug, I would have. I needn't have been so worried, it was fine and she tried to make normal conversation -nothing with "sooooooooo how are you feeling about....?"
I think that officially ended any further fantasies I might have had. That freaked me out. I have learned that it is hard to know one's t outside of that relationship - just know too much about me!

The Jersey shore! I was so hoping to get there this year I just bought a new suv and I'm trying to think if T drove with me how would that go? I'd probably have more fun with his office manager...

I think T would be all nervous for some reason but his assistant would be fun to go for a drive with

Anyway, I would tell him for music we have AC/DC, Aerosmith, Meatloaf, a mixed cd of current stuff Pink, Stefani, Daughtry...

Pink is my favorite singer these days(she grew up near where I did) and all three of her hit songs could be about my life...

Yes, that's it...I would blast 'cause I can', open the moon roof, tell him to buckle up because now it is time for me to take him on a wild ride!

(I always joke to him that therapy is a wild ride)

i don't drive so he would have to. i DO think it is significant (for people who drive) that they would be driving. a way of getting some control, maybe? that being said, there is probably a significant reason why i won't drive ;-)

where would we go... probably down the the coast, yeah. i'm not much of a beach person, but i'm kinda discovering beaches. we have conference / workshops on the beach and its really funny to see pasty white academics with rolled up jeans / slacks disaproving a little of the sand... no sunbathing in their bikinis lol. i could kinda imagine us doing that. us wearing the kinds of clothes we usually wear and kinda rolling up our pants in distaste walking over the sand...

he has a pretty small car (though probably alright for him). i wonder if his wife is at home with the kids... figure she probably is and she gets a family car whereas his is just to get him to and from work, really. i wonder if he has heaps of junk in it... you know... i could walk up the street a little and have a perv... but i wouldn't like to get caught doing that lol.

You have a good point Alex, I hadn't realized that I am driving in my scenario and linked it to control.

I do feel like the power is with him and not me...could this be a new topic this week?

Who's driving is very important in dreams about cars:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/h2g2/A640847

If my current T and I went for a drive I would be all nervous and hope she wasn't criticing my driving which some people tell me is really bad.

If my old T and I went for a drive I would take him to Beaver Lake and we would sit for a picnic and just talk. I would have to clean out my car though because it is always messy. Right now its kind of clean but there are still a few cigarette packages on the floorboard. I am getting ready to trade my car off for a new one and would love to take Steve for a drive in my new car as we were always joking about what a POS my car is.

Jbug

taking the power back can be a theme in sexual fantasies too...

because there is an inherant power inbalance in the therapy relationship (we self disclose they don't etc)