Is Your T Wealthy?

T is not wealthy by an means. At one point while I was seeing here she worked 3 jobs. Full time 4 days a week at a local hospital, 1 day a week at a local college, and 2 evenings a week in private practice. She recently went to only working 2 10 hour days in private practice. She is okay because she put a good amount of money into retirement funds

I have no idea really because I don't know anything about her, but I reckon she lives in a huge detached house.

I'm not sure it's never come up, but she comes across and somewhat wealthy, and I imagine her driving a nice car and living in a nice house. She's well spoken and articulate but I don't know whether that's a wealth thing or just that she's intelligent, but yes without knowing much I would say she is wealthy.

I don't think my T is wealthy, but he's definitely upper middle class or perhaps lower upper class. He was able to afford a month long vacation the same year one of his daughters is getting married. His car is beat, though.

It doesn't make me feel inferior that he and I are parts of different socioeconomic classes presently. At different times of my life I've been poor, comfortable, and wealthy. So status isn't something that I think of often.

My T's husband is a very, very well known and successful (atleast financially) lawyer. She recently told me they were moving, again. So after some snooping I found out that their new house is a $1.5 million dollar home.
I am very bothered by this, for all kinds of reasons, but I can't tell her, or anyone else.

Pretty sure my t is middle class.

I don't think they are particularly wealthy, not with the standards of the city where we live. Both of mine were quite similar to me in this, I think. The second one (that I always felt much more similar to me in every way) obviously had higher lifestyle needs and more elitist kind of presentation, charges more and works with lots of wealthy people. He also comes from a much wealthier family background than my first T. But I don't think they themselves are likely to have a huge difference from each-other and from me in terms of income and lifestyle quality. I would not have any problems having a very wealthy T either, I work with such people professionally so am used to it.

My T is not wealthy - or at least I don't get the impression she is and from what googling I have done of her, I don't believe she places a large level of importance on financial wealth. She is a recent pDoc graduate and I suspect has a significant amount of student loans. Currently, I think I might be overall in a more financially sound position than my T. I am aware how easily that can/could change.

I don't think the actual wealth of my T would bother me depending on how much it appeared in my sessions (clothing, car, house, general feeling/attitude) as much as many other things. My T (and none of the T's I've seen) have ever said or did anything that left me feeling uncomfortable based on financial differences. I did have a potential T that I got that feeling of snootiness and it bugged me not because I thought she was actually more financially well off than me but because I am typically turned off by people with certain energies.

I don't know if my t is wealthy, but he's very spendy. Expensive clothes and very nice cars, which he changes often (or maybe owns several? I have never asked.) I assume he's wealthy, or else is happy carrying a lot of debt. He charges his big-city clients a lot of money (I see him at his home office for less), so he's got a lot of cash coming in. I assume it matches the cash flow out, but he really seems to spend a lot! (I'm from more of a saving mindset, so this is one thing about him that I don't really get.)

Current T is quite wealthy, both in general and definitely compared to me -- I think it's a combination of inherited wealth and her husband making $$$$ as an MD. She owns at least one home that's going for close to a million bucks, both her kids are in a really expensive private school and from what I can tell, she's made rather expensive choices in terms of fitness etc (tennis lessons and the like).

However, while she charges a fair bit, she doesn't seem too hung up on money when it comes to her practice -- takes a number of regular breaks, doesn't see clients every day and doesn't always have her schedule filled up completely. But, she doesn't do sliding scale (because she said she found out that people with good jobs were making use of it).

She has though been super -- like really just super-duper -- hung up on how I seem to not care about money especially when it comes to my family. She was really mad -- like unusually het-up because she's generally so relaxed -- about the amount of money I've given my family over time and the fact that I choose to not get paid for work for my family that they use to charge $$$ from other folks.

She also seems to think that I make the choices I do -- e.g. have little or no furniture at home etc -- because I don't have money (even if I've corrected her on it!). And, now, as she's been trying to get me to move, she's been rather gentle in pointing out places that she thinks would be affordable (and be okay in terms of racial demographics [given the state where I live] + all my unique criteria) for me.

So, she's super conscious about how money might affect me. She also knows I haven't saved up anything and so, she occasionally gets on my case to do it. And, she checks in at times to see if I am getting insurance reimbursement for her services (I wasn't but soon will) because she'd said she'd like to make sure her clients aren't paying her fully out of pocket.

So yeah, it doesn't in the least bother me that she's well-off -- in general, people's wealth doesn't bother me (other stuff does but not money). So, her lifestyle seems so far removed from anything I'd want for myself that it's more like I'm a trifle entertained as if I'm watching a movie of sorts.

I don't really know if mine is rich. I never really thought about it. But then I make a concious effort to not compare myself to others. Whether they seem to be more stable than me, if they have more money, more friends, etc. for me it just leads down a dark road where there lions and tiger and bears.......but that's just me. Not speaking for anyone else

I think mine is quite wealthy. I don't think she has to work. Lives in expensive house, goes on expensive trips and takes in expensive entertainment.

To me, wealthy is sports/movie star salary, CEO pay, so no, my T is not wealthy. I do consider him well-off in terms of owning an expensive house, taking multiple costly vacations every year, driving a 50k+ car. He doesn't take insurance, charges $175 for 50 minutes, with very little overhead costs. As long as there is a demand by middle-upper class clients, most could do well under those conditions.

It doesn't make me feel inferior but it bothers me a lot that he stopped helping me as soon as I had no money to pay him after 5 years of paying him. It feels like being wounded, then kicked into a ditch on the side of the road and discarded.

It also bothers me that so many make so much off the most vulnerable, sick, or unfortunate. Taking your money for years to subsidize a good life, but as soon as you can't pay, heartlessly cut you off. Except for ERs, who can treat health emergencies. It makes me feel like I'm not human, triggers my long-term childhood feelings of not deserving to live. It cuts deep into my core wounds.

Most of the mental health professionals I've seen have been white, middle aged, middle class females. The nurses and assessors tended to be working/lower middle class.

My last (NHS) T was quite articulate and always dressed in a smart/casual way but was never flashy. In one session we were discussing my childhood and she said that her (now grown up) children went to a "good" school, and it's usually only the privileged who are able to provide their offspring with a decent level of education. When I explained my financial situation (I'm poor) she didn't understand at all and would often make silly, misinformed comments because she seemed to live in a bubble. I checked her out online and I noticed that she left a couple of short reviews on trip advisor, and in her profile picture she was on a yacht, holding a bottle of champagne! I know that doesn't necessarily prove that she was wealthy - it could've just been a holiday treat.

The majority of T's are middle class because they can afford to put themselves through college (and pay for their own therapy) know the right people and understand that the system works in their favour. I think that there needs to be more diversity in the MH profession; It's just too "cookie cutter" to be truly effective. Patients/clients need to feel that they are understood, and they may feel more comfortable opening up to someone from a similar background.

I suspect mine is well-off. She bought a new Land Rover last year and dresses quite well, anyway.

I don't think my therapist is wealthy (relatively speaking, given the socioeconomic distribution in our area). Around here, the wealthy are billionaires. But it's obvious he makes a good living, and I wouldn't want it any other way.

The better a therapist's personal life (and that includes financial security and material comfort), the more they have to give to their patients. I'd be concerned if my therapist was struggling financially.

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Zillow says my T's house is worth $1.1m, so he's pretty bank.

I am sure she is wealthy. She is also my psychiatrist. I don't see her that often anymore. I was seeing her every week for a while.

She does a lot of work with borderlines and other personality disorders. All kinds of people really. I know she does work with eating disorders. I asked because her office always smells of cup o soup noodles.

It is rough to analyze me. I am kind of savvy because of years of therapy. She did diagnose me correctly. Bipolar 1 and OCPD .

My last therapist and psychiatrist had no idea. I only saw them when I was sad. So misdiagnosed as depression.

I think she's solidly middle class. She's cash pay and I have a good estimate of how many clients she sees in a week so it's pretty easy to guess her approximate gross income. But as a private practice cash business, I know her net is also significantly less.