Therapists and Anger

Oh, well most of mytherapist have only heard the stories like "I got angry and wanted to do this" not that I did that but perhaps in their minds they thought I would. But wanting to do something when angry doesn't mean one would go through with it ever. I'm sure they thought that though. but thats my thoughts I could be wrong. I think this cause when I began showing anger in my sessions, like pacing or not being able to sit still or my voice changing they seemed to get nervous and tried to re-direct the conversation.

As for the one who called security on me, it was the one I raised my voice to, not at her but I was venting about smething and pacing back and forth, and had a raised tone, and I'm sure I had told her things about when i got angry. She tried and couldn't descalate me, and I think I yelled at her once during that time saying something like What I'm not allowed to be angry? I'm not allowed my feelings? you think you could go through this and not be angry?

Or some ****, so she called security. I thought an over-reaction since I never have hurt a therapist ever. This was the only time I feel, in my opinion, I have ever been threatening truly. and even though this T and I dont alays get on well, i think she knows i would never hurt her so she didnt feel threatened.

I felt bad about the vase but she didn't care at all. She said it was a cheap one she picked up at like the dollar store to match something in her office. I offered to pay for it but she refused

My therapist used to handle my anger better than she does now. In the past, she didn't take offense and could remain objective. During the most recent rupture, though, she lost her objectivity and got offended by my angry email message, so she refused to reply anymore.

Then, about 2-3 days later, she replied, "Great that you could safely express your anger with me in a way you could never do with your parents." I thought to myself, "ummmm...no! It wasn't safe to express my anger at you because you got offended and ignored me like my mom used to do."

Since then, my t has admitted that she did play a part in the problem between us. She said she thinks a small part of her was responding to one of my parts. Still, I thought t's were taught not to let their stuff enter into the therapy relationship.

I'm not sure why her countertransference is starting to disrupt things, or why she is having more trouble now with her objectivity...but I know the situation is not just about me and my issues from the past.

I agree completely with this. They are trained to deal with ALL emotions & accept clients for who they are. Behind anger, is usually another emotion that's being masked.