She told me one day this week that she’s been through things related to work and home and that she’s going to rest it out. I told her she should find someone to talk about it with and she said it’s ok. Of course I don’t believe it.
This weekend I started feeling she’s anxious. She was laying in her bed and I told her that I think she should see therapy. I could see she’s avoidant, and I don’t know what to do.

[here today]

There is nothing directly that you can do about your mother's anxiety or other concerns. You've expressed your opinion. What she decides to do is up to her. I know it's hard to see people we care about not doing the things we think they should do to take care of themselves, but that's just the way it is sometimes. If you have specific reasons to think she's a danger to herself or others, then that's a bit different. But still a difficult situation to intervene in.

I am personally a little frustrated she’d insist about the importance of seeking mental help, yet she doesn’t examplify

[Amyjay]

It can be very frustrating when people don't choose to do what we think will benefit them.

Originally Posted by Amyjay

It can be very frustrating when people don't choose to do what they think will benefit us.

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[here today]

Yes, and just as you have to decide for yourself, she gets to decide for herself. Speaking as a mother, she may be concerned about you, doesn't know what to do to help, may be having a hard time realizing it's not her "job" to take care of you anymore, etc. Or any number of other things.

Always about the child made trash, never about their caregivers
But I'll be honest, I also feel like a trash child myself.

[here today]

Me, too. HOWEVER, I keep on keeping on because the other option isn't good either.

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

Yes, I think that the perpetrator of my childhood abuse needs more counseling than I do. Or prison.

But I don't see choosing to go to therapy as being about me, or labeling me as trash. I go to therapy so I can become the person I was meant to be, the person I want to be. After a long time, that is happening and continues to become true.

My last therapist would take sides with my parents and others more than my own feelings. After such experience and the fact that no one proves to me that it was wrong by rebelling against it, how am I supposed to believe that therapy is really going to help me take my own path, when eventually the path of my own has to be determined by no other than me?

[ListenMoreTalkLess]

Therapy may not be helpful to you to find your own path; it seems like it has failed you at least so far in that regard. If you are being forced to go to therapy, I am sorry and that is not the way it's supposed to be. I'm sorry that I can't relate to your experience in therapy. I just posted because it did resonate with me, the idea that the people who probably need therapy the most will never get it. Therapists say these are usually narcissists, who think they are so perfect that therapy cannot be helpful to them.