A couple of weeks ago, I was going through my "you don't belong to me" mode. - having never been made to feel I belong with my adoptive mother, this is an issue, that comes up every so often.
T often says I do belong, and that I can take my place with her for granted.
So when I began struggling with what this whole relationship is, trying to place it. Telling T that's she's not a friend, not a mother,I have no way of really relating her in conversation in my life outside, that is neither here nor there. T said, do you have to place it, does it have to have a fixed place, a, relationship that fits, in with the norms. Can't it just be what it is between us here and now and f*** society?
That hit home. I did, yes I like they. Now it makes sense it is enough just as it is. It doesn't have to be explainable.

Nice to see you back here. I always liked reading your reflections on your therapy, I find them quite grounding, maybe because you seem to have a really good therapist, and good therapy.

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I'm glad to see you too, mouse. I could have written most of your post; it struck home for me! What is this relationship? I get it. T says we have a real relationship but I can't know her boyfriend's name. That's just one example. Yet she's the one who is interested and who I turned to when I was in the ER recently. She's the only one who willingly went to see my painting in an art show.

T is the only one who will listen to all my medical stuff and tell me to throw out my old pills.

We are very close, T and I. But, what is this relationship?! Yes, she's my T. The relationship isn't less than others in my life. It's just unique and loving. On both sides. Thanks for your post, Mouse.

I think part of it, was T having the strength to admit the relationship isn't one of friendship or mother. In that strength I can find what it is for myself, and make real use of it.

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Originally Posted by Mouse_62

I think part of it, was T having the strength to admit the relationship isn't one of friendship or mother. In that strength I can find what it is for myself, and make real use of it.

That's great! I'm so happy for you. It seems you have a great T. The best therapists are the ones who bring out the best in you.