[20oney]

Could be a silly question but I have just terminated with my T for relocation reasons. We had basically just started to get to the good stuff I think. I was letting my walls down a bit and she was starting to get some of the real me.
Then, I decided to throw everything away and move. So we've had to terminate. I am allowed to keep contact and we can have phone sessions. But, I am not sure that I will go for that straight away.

I am really REALLY bad at goodbyes and thank yous. I think it's like a denial thing - if I don't say goodbye, we don't have to do the talking about the end of the relationship thing and acknowledge each other and all that.. I am okay with not being able to say goodbye, as I would like to return one day.

But to say thank you, would be good. It is a very uncomfortable thing for me though. I don't know what to say, how to say it and I don't believe that words can ever do it justice. I also don't want to sounds fake, nor go over the top..

Basically I will probably just leave without saying thank you.

But has anyone got experiences of saying thank you? How did you do it and how did the T react??

[winterblues17]

I'm still with mine, but I did write her a list of positives I have felt since being with her, so it was a way of say thank you. I probably also did thank her in the letter itself but I can't remember.
I don't really have a problem thanking her or spoke on general that I feel have helped me out in some way though and probably say it most sessions!
I think she did like reading the list though and said it was nice to see!

[rainbow8]

You can show your thanks in other ways than words. You
can use photos, artwork, or make a scrapbook.You can give her a small gift if that's allowed, or bake her something. If it's just saying the words that's hard, you can send an email or give her a handmade or bought thank you card.

I've told my T thank you in words, in a collage I made for her, in cards I've made, and through baked goods. She's always reacted graciously.

[SalingerEsme]

Originally Posted by 20oney

Could be a silly question but I have just terminated with my T for relocation reasons. We had basically just started to get to the good stuff I think. I was letting my walls down a bit and she was starting to get some of the real me.
Then, I decided to throw everything away and move. So we've had to terminate. I am allowed to keep contact and we can have phone sessions. But, I am not sure that I will go for that straight away.

I am really REALLY bad at goodbyes and thank yous. I think it's like a denial thing - if I don't say goodbye, we don't have to do the talking about the end of the relationship thing and acknowledge each other and all that.. I am okay with not being able to say goodbye, as I would like to return one day.

But to say thank you, would be good. It is a very uncomfortable thing for me though. I don't know what to say, how to say it and I don't believe that words can ever do it justice. I also don't want to sounds fake, nor go over the top..

Basically I will probably just leave without saying thank you.

But has anyone got experiences of saying thank you? How did you do it and how did the T react??

How about send a nice therapy book to her office with a thank you note?

[AllHeart]

When I termed with second t I handed her a thank you note I had written her at the end of session and then we hugged good-bye. That was it.