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Old Dec 23, 2017, 03:10 PM
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I know alot of people do thank you letter to their t for termination but what about for end of year? I've only gone 8 months but he's been so important to me so I wonder if its a good or lame idea
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 03:13 PM
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I would not do such a thing, but I did not feel a need to thank the therapist in the first place. I don't see a therapist as needing or deserving of gratitude. The woman did nothing except sit there and get handed an inordinate amount of money to do so.
However, I don't see harm in it.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 03:31 PM
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I think it sounds nice. Learning how to express gratitude seems like a very therapy-appropriate skill to practice.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 03:38 PM
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I do gratitude often. Always thanking people. I just thought a letter might be nice to do
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 03:41 PM
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I do that with the Christmas card. I also do it a couple of times throughout the year in cards and other times when it just hits in my journal. At our last therapiversary I did a longer letter talking about the journey and changes I've seen.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 05:23 PM
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I haven’t done a yearly thank you letter or email but have thanked PrevT and T a few times when the mood strikes me.

Go ahead, if you feel you want to do it.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 05:23 PM
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I sometimes have given small gifts at Christmas.
This year, instead, I wrote a kind of thank you letter at Thanksgiving.
I put some specifics of things she's helped me with and how I feel better able to deal in real life. My goal was to give her more useful feedback than my usual end of session mumbled "thanks".
I handed it to her in session but she read it later.
She sent me a short but lovely text after she read it.

I felt good about it.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 05:48 PM
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I think its never wrong to say thank you. Yes, we pay them, yet I dont think thats a reason not to thank someone. My own clients thank me, and they pay tons to the company I work for.

I gave my T a thank you card at thanksgiving, and she was very touched. For what she does for me, telling her that I am thankful is all I can do.

I always keep it short and to the point, but I have never given someone a thank you card or letter and gotten a bad response.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 05:51 PM
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I have never given someone a thank you card or letter and gotten a bad response.
I have

It messed with my head for many years, I was so scared to be kind in any form to anyone...

I think my T will be ok with it though but I tend to ramble so maybe I wont, I will see
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 05:52 PM
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I dont do it formally, but i do take the beginning of the year to look back at any successes, and make t plans.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 06:23 PM
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I have

It messed with my head for many years, I was so scared to be kind in any form to anyone...

I think my T will be ok with it though but I tend to ramble so maybe I wont, I will see
Sorry to hear that.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 08:42 PM
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No thank you letter here.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 08:45 PM
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I don't do thank you notes, but I think it is fine to do that if you want to.

IMO people in general should do a lot more thanking that we tend to do.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 08:57 PM
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i regularly write my therapist little thank you emails, but i also do a little letter/ card at Chrstimas time. She likes them.
I think its a great idea. Everyone likes to be appreciated.
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Old Dec 23, 2017, 10:02 PM
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DP, I think it's a lovely idea. Everyone likes to feel appreciated.

Your t will probably enjoy knowing that what he's doing is helpful and meaningful to you.
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