Have you intentionally been a 'no show' to therapy?

I won't no show because appointments with T are hard to get on the time slots I need due to my work schedule. I know she had has patients no show and she's stated that she'll have a conversation with them the next time she sees them.

I did once and i wont do it again. It was after my husbands stroke last April and we had a rupture that kept me from going to the app.

No I actually like therapy

No. It's never crossed my mind. But I can see how people who different issues might need to or feel they need to. I'm sure I do other things to push boundaries and test limits though.

I did once with my first therapist and when she rang to see where I was I told her that I didn’t show up because I couldn’t be bothered because therapy is a load of shite. Needless to say she wasn’t impressed and I had to pay her for the missed session but I felt empowered and like I took back some of my Power and control.

I'll probably get flak for this, but...

My therapist makes a living doing what she does. I know I'll get charged for the appointment whether or not I go, but I see it as a respect thing.

If I have a problem with my therapist, then I ought to confront her about it. Maybe she made a mistake and didn't know it. So if I tell her about how I feel, she may be able to prevent herself from making that mistake again with me AND other clients. Or if the problem is my fault, we can have a good discussion about it.

There's no sense in trying to hurt the therapist if he or she hurt you. Two wrongs don't make a right, and trying to hurt them doesn't get you anywhere. It just gives you a feeling of "vengeance", but what good is that they doesn't know what they did wrong? If anything, they'll just feel confused or not understand until you actually tell them what went wrong, so you might as well just confront them in the first place since you'll inevitably have to do it.

I always want to if I feel like he has been pushing way too hard, to show him I feel that way instead of admitting it in words. However, he's a really good T, and I am more afraid of getting fired as a client for bs behavior than any temptation like that. I do feel like there are many easier clients with nicer life stories he could choose, so I dont want to do anything that might make him question if he needs trauma in his caseload.

I have not. My own work involves a lot of scheduled meetings and it can be very frustrating if someone does not show up without any notice given how easy it is today to send an email, text, phone call etc. It is frustrating in terms of interfering with the progress of projects but I would never take it as someone testing me or personal hurt - it just does not reach into those domains. In my world personal resentment is just not an excuse for such an act and I consider it a poor approach to manipulate a (however bad) professional. So, no. I did cancel last minute several times, sometimes for no other reason but not wanting to go to a session, but always told the therapist in some form before the start of the meeting and paid full fee for the last minute notice.

I do understand how it might work emotionally but I personally doubt that an occasional no show is going to hurt a therapist beyond perhaps a minor annoyance about the wait, especially if they can still collect their fee due to agreement on cancellation policy. I think it is more likely to hurt the client themselves in the form of guilt, shame, self sabotage etc without truly creating the attention they may desire, without progress. Just my opinion.

I wouldn't consider doing it. This is a professional relationship. Who does it really hurt? The therapist gets paid and the client is out of pocket...

No, never.

And, at least, my current therapist has said that it is disrespectful / hurtful when clients do no-shows (she said it in the context of "You don't seem to be the type to do that" -- for a while, I was often cancelling more than 24 hours in advance, which is her cancellation policy deadline).

No, never intentionally. I've been unable to come and unable to cancel myself, but someone else would then cancel for me. And it's probably happened that I got the time wrong, but I don't remember any occasion to be honest.

I didn't show up twice (for 1.5 years).
Generally, I felt bad and nervous and didn't want to talk to T - but I sent a message 1 hour before the session and also I had to pay for this (that's why I didn't feel so bad because I know that T earned money anyway).

Now even when I don't want to talk to T (because of anger or difficult emotions) I go and just tell her - that today I didn't want to come, I don't want to sit here and I don't want to talk to her But usually, after this confession - I have a quite fruitful session.

Yup, I did it once. The irony is that I’m generally extremely polite, professional,well-mannered and I work in an office where appointments are important. I’m relatively new to therapy and I was feeling overwhelmed by it all and thought I could force myself to go, but just couldn’t on one particular day. I can’t say why I didn’t call or email my T, but I’m embarrassed by it now. I sent an email immediately after my appointment apologizing, then sent a longer more emotional email that evening. We met the following week and he was very kind and understanding which sort of made me feel worse. I think he may have said I was testing him. I doubt I’ll do it again.

No. Once I did honestly forget about an appointment - and I felt awful about it for days. But, missing only once in 10 years is a pretty good track record.

I've hardly ever missed a session for any reason in 7 years. I never would intentionally skip a session.