If you could ask your T just one thing....

and they had to answer honestly... what would you ask?

It's hard to come up with one question but I would like to ask her what are the words she painted over on some of her paintings.

If it could be a broad question, I'd ask her to tell me about her childhood.

When have you felt most vulnerable would be my question...

I think I've asked my t everything I want to know ... although new things always come up

I'm curious now about that words your t had on her paintings rain

"Do you like me?"

What do you really think of me?

Argo, I almost wrote the same thing but just felt a bit sheepish... but yes, that's exactly what I would ask too.

Why don't you ask? I don't because it seems like a bit of a set-up - I mean, he'll say yes either way, right?

It also irritates me that I care.

I would probably ask her what her biggest worry or insecurity is or when does she feel most vulnerable.

'Before our indefinite break, you told me to 'Take care of yourself.' Did you have any idea of the magnitude of the upcoming anniversary date?'

Have you ever lied to me?

There is more than yes or no. Mine said she likes working with me. So just be prepared that it can go in different ways that don't answer your question, or that answer it in a backward way that doesn't feel so great.

Or you could get a generic answer like, "I like all my clients."

I keep thinking of questions for MC (like "Do you love me?" "What do you really think of me?" "Are you attracted to me?" "What's the real reason you told me I had to reduce outside contact?,") but then I'm not sure I'd want to know the honest answer to any of them, depending on what it is...

And I have lots of general curiosity sort of questions about T (political views, what kind of car he drives, etc.), but not one stands out as something I *need* to know. Well, I really want to know if his son is more on the high-functioning or low-functioning end of the autism spectrum, but I also realize that knowing the answer to that question could potentially affect how comfortable I feel talking about certain things regarding my daughter (we've discussed that)...so probably better I don't know. And I'm curious about his wife, but after the stuff with MC, I realize it's probably for the best that I don't know much of anything about her (well, except he's already mentioned she has ADHD) either...

My T always lets me ask anything, so there really isn't anything I would wanna ask that I haven't or can't in the future

Why do you say such idiotic things and how is it supposed to help?

1st: "Are you unaware of your lack of responsibility, or just a jerk?"
2nd: "Why did you kept emailing with me for >a year after I stopped seeing you?"

(I actually asked both, minus the "jerk" part. No response.)

Do you care about me as a person?

Are you tired of me

Yes, I don't ask because I don't trust the answer to be entirely truthful, but if he did want to be truthful by very carefully crafting an answer, I would just find that crawling-out-of-my-skin uncomfortable and would probably interrupt him and tell him to never mind. Best just not to ask.

I do talk about the asymmetry of the therapy relationship -- I complain about it and imply he doesn't care about me. He says that I seem to read others well and I should trust my sense of whether he cares about me. Apparently he feels it shows that he cares about me, and the therapy issue is, why don't I believe my own sense of that? I understand his point but feel like it's absurd he won't just say "Of course I care about you."

When can I move in?

Do you really think I have actual problems (that need therapy to be resolved)?

(She said a while ago -- in the midst of a set of ruptures -- that at least in the beginning, she didn't think I had any real problems.)

Have you googled me?

(Not that I would care. It would just be interesting to ask.)

Why are you closing your practice?

Geez, I have a lot of questions. Do I frustrate you? Do you think I'm a lost cause? Do you think we would be friends if we met in the ~real~ world? Have you ever come across my social media? What do you think of me -- truly, honestly, not just "I enjoy working with you" or some generic answer?