[JaneTennison1]

I was seeing a T for a year -, one day, shortly after session, she emailed and said she felt mistreated in the session. It was horrible and to me came out of no where. I replied to this and never heard back. 5 weeks of silence later I emailed again to find out what was happening and she replied saying therapy was over.

I felt it was a terrible way to end therapy and filed a complaint. I was so utterly confused by both emails and she refused a conversation with me. In reply to the complaint she pulled out all the emails I sent to "prove" I knew I was challenging.

Today I got word that my complaint was upheld and she would be cautioned, as well my complaint would go on file so in future it could be used.

I feel like crying with relief, among the findings they said they could not reach the same conclusions she had and that even IF challenging I was still entitled to a decent therapy ending.

They also concluded that as she had known I had a difficult time in therapy this was proof that she knew my vulnerabilities and all the more reason to terminate ethically.

I feel like she tried to prove I was the unstable client and she the professional and she may have believed (as did I) that they would agree with her. The fact they didn't is miraculous.

[precaryous]

What a relief! Im glad the system worked for you.

Even *if* you...or I ..or any client were/are unstable challenging patients (I agree with the board) it’s all the more reason to treat the client carefully and ethically.

Oh that is a relief! I'm so glad too that the system worked the way it should for you. I hope it brings you some comfort.

[LonesomeTonight]

So glad to hear that the complaint was upheld. Gives me faith if I ever decide to pursue something like that against my marriage counselor...

[JaneTennison1]

It's a relief. Nothing serious will really happen, they don't have much power but my end result is that they believe me and if it happens in the future they have my complaint in her file.

[velcro003]

this was my response

[guilloche]

Wow! Thanks for posting the update, and I'm so very, very glad that you were validated from the professional body this way! It doesn't really make up for how she treated you, but what a relief and what validation that they agreed with you! I'm so happy for you!

[AllHeart]

Thank you so much for sharing this!! I'm thrilled you took measures to stand up to what was wrong and found a favorable outcome for yourself. This upcoming Wednesday is the planned day for me to submit my report against my ex-t. Not gonna lie -- I'm getting scared. Know that your inspiring story will make it a bit easier for me to hit the "submit" button.

[healinginprogress]

I'm very happy that you were able to be validated! That sounds awful what your former T did!

[Lemoncake]

I'm glad it went in your favor.

[JaneTennison1]

My feeling always was that as I was very anxious she read that as angry but since we left the session laughing and talking about my kid, I was baffled completely.

I just read she has to do a written report of how she will terminate properly in future. It just gets better lol

Allheart I wish you the best of luck. I don't have much advice really except, as I'm sure you know, just tell the truth and hope for the best.

[missbella]

Glad you received resolution in your favor. I understand "blaming the patient/client" is a common defense tactic to the point someone wrote a book demonizing complaining patients. My ex-therapist portrayed me as so delusional, it's astounding that his invented character-me functioned at all. On the positive side, this warts and all view of the profession was paradoxically healing. Wishing you well. The complaint process can be fraught and intimidating.

[Myrto]

That’s great news! I hope this will bring you at least some relief/closure for the way your ex therapist treated you.
I am always glad to hear that sometimes therapists DO have to face some sort of responsability for their actions, especially considering clients in my country have zero recourse against bad therapists (except for cases such as sleeping with a client and even then it’s rarely prosecuted).