How to deal with emotions in regards to T?

Kub2k · Jan 27, 2018 at 07:38 AM

I feel a lot of loving feelings towards T and it does not feel like transference. I’ve brought up transference before and T said it doesn’t sound like I’m transferring anything to her.

I’m not sure how to bring up my feelings for T. I just have a strong urge to tell her I love her but it feels like it’d be uncomfortable for T since there is no real reason to bring it up. I made a little art thing in school to help describe my feelings but I’m not sure if I should bring it to next session.

Anyone have any advice or experience on brining these things up?

stopdog · Jan 27, 2018 at 10:54 AM

One needn't act on a feeling.

mostlylurking · Jan 27, 2018 at 01:24 PM

I know that there are others here who have told their T's that they love them. You might start a bit smaller than that, and try saying that you've been feeling really close to her, or have been thinking about her a lot, or something along those lines. She would probably consider the "therapeutic relationship" to be worthy of talking about in itself. There are some schools of thought that think many important insights can be gleaned from looking at the relationship between therapist and client.

Generally speaking, you should be able to say anything to your T that you feel like saying. I do think it can feel safer to kind of tiptoe into it sometimes.

Kub2k · Jan 27, 2018 at 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by mostlylurking

I know that there are others here who have told their T's that they love them. You might start a bit smaller than that, and try saying that you've been feeling really close to her, or have been thinking about her a lot, or something along those lines. She would probably consider the "therapeutic relationship" to be worthy of talking about in itself. There are some schools of thought that think many important insights can be gleaned from looking at the relationship between therapist and client.

Generally speaking, you should be able to say anything to your T that you feel like saying. I do think it can feel safer to kind of tiptoe into it sometimes.

Yeah we’ve touched on this topic before so it should be fine. I don’t necessarily need to say “I love you”. They are strong emotions and I want to discuss it only if there are possible benefits from it.

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