Couch 162: Let's Play Ball! (The Baseball Couch)

I would let him know you have plans to go there with your friend when you guys set a time, say, sunday afternoon or whatever. Then leave it up to him to adjust his plans if he wants to. But you should definitely go out!

I agree with una!

It’s always a great therapy session when you punch a chair.

There's a major fair that happens here in my county. T and I always make sure that we won't be there at the same time. She doesn't tell me when she's going, but I tell her when I'm going and she confirms she won't be there at that time.

Wow, my Positive Psych prof is right on top of grading so far. Our 2nd paper was just due today, I submitted mine last night, and she's already graded it, full credit again go me!

I was looking ahead at future paper topics, and for one of them, the assignment is to go out and volunteer somewhere that pushes us out of of comfort zone, and then answer some questions about the experience in that paper. Hmm, I should start looking for something now so I'm not scrambling at the last minute. There's a lot of work in this class, but I'm loving it!

Is she still employed by you?

Thanks for the advice, I'll give him a heads up next session. Still have to ask her what day and time. That much hasn't been planned, but this has also got me to ask my T, what his rules are about if we ever did run into each other, likely rare so I usually stay out of his area but you never know....

I'm admittedly a hermit. What is a cat place?

As for receipts and death notifications/procedures, I needed a record of my payments from last year and there were lots of holes over a three month period. I pay by check each visit and when I went twice a month, I paid for both visits on the first appointment of the week. I did not think it would be hard to track, but the period of time the books collapsed made me wonder if a high school student was doing her accounting. I could rack it up to vacation brain, but it went on way too long and did not make sense.

The problem with death notifications is that whoever does the calling or mailing may not know who is currently seeing the therapist, unless they are on the ball and have an active file. When I got my record of payments, I saw that my client number was 3,333. I emailed back asking if that's how many clients she'd had at the time I started, but she didn't answer. So, let's say she doesn't have an active file, that's a lot of phone calls that are definitely not going to happen.

Ruh-roh -- its an adoption center with cats but they also serve coffee. you can come hang with friends and meet the cats and have a drink. i honestly prefer dogs but it sounds relaxing at the very least.

I saw one recently featured on a tv show, it was in new york, the owner had lived in japan a lot, there was a dividing wall so he could serve food as well. Looked pretty cool.

For now there are no new interments in my therapist graveyard. Although I would appreciate it if someone would drive a stake through No. 3’s heart. Her revenancy is getting old.

By the way, I am less “pliable” than Info’s other clients. Good.

rr—I asked Info today how many clients she’d had over her career (I was assuming in the thousands) and she was quite sure it was only in the hundreds. And she’s 65 and been in practice for 30 years. So I doubt you are actually client no. 3333.
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I can only see being the less pliable sort as being a massive compliment.

And being 3333 would seem better than being 666.
(I too doubt it meant she has seen thousands of clients - but instead is a different numbering system - or she does extreme short term therapy with most clients)

I once asked her how many active clients she has and guessed about a 100. She didn't answer me directly, and instead said that some come every week, a lot come every other week, and a few are once a month. So I'm just going to guesstimate an active caseload of 50-60. I have no idea how many are short term vs long term, so it's impossible to get a total headcount. Maybe 3,333+ is a stretch. Maybe I'm 3333 for another reason.

Isn’t three a lucky number?

I was thinking more like when I was first on the academic job market, my professional organization’s placement service numbered candidates. So I was 516, but there were not 500 candidates, they were just putting 5 in front of every number.

Less pliable after all that yoga? That doesnt seem right

My brain is very inflexible. It can’t even do shavasana.

My t has said that if we were to see each other in public somewhere, she could not talk to me first. I would have to say hi first.

You know what sometimes makes me feel a little powerful? When t shows up at a dance thing waiting to pick up his kid and I am there and I can choose to Acknowledge him or not and I just don’t.

So that’s what I did tonight, pretended like he was not in the room. And I like that. There are times when we do say hi to each other, but tonight I just wanted to him ignore him for some reason.

Yeah i keep mine old school too

Really? I would have said your brain was in yoganidrasana.

So...seeing T tomorrow for half-session at 10 a.m. Trying to decide how I feel about that. Scared? I'd asked for brief phone call, but he said he preferred in person and gave me a couple options (including one for full session). He doesn't usually see clients on Saturdays either... (Sundays some weeks.)

Edited to add: Which will mean I've seen him 3 times in one week...yikes! Though he is out of town next week...hence this whole discussion.

I would love to go back to seeing t on Saturdays when I make up my mind to go back, after we've paid off the hospital bills. (Not that we've received any yet.) I wonder what she would say if I asked her to work on Saturdays again. It was SO much better than after work.

You know me so well!

Even though we had a really good session yesterday, I can't pull out of this funk. I'm so depressed. I don't know how I'll make it through the weekend. I don't know how to keep doing this where one bad day just bleeds into the next until it's an amorphous blob of badness all the time. What's the point of anything?

Just wanted to say hello to everyone on the couch as it's been a while. My newish T that I really, really liked turned on me a little more than a month ago. She pretty much threw everything that I ever told her back in my face. She hurt me so badly that I've been reeling for a month now. Anyhow, I saw a new T yesterday and I think that I really like her. I told her what I need from a T and she agreed on all accounts, so hoping that we are all set. I'm going again next Tuesday.

Hugs to anyone who wants one!

ETA: I'm really behind on the couch and doubt that I'll go back and catch up, I hope everyone is doing well.