Couch 162: Let's Play Ball! (The Baseball Couch)

According to my social psychology textbook, Westerners tend to take one observed fact about someone else and make it their whole view of them. Okay, sure.

But the example used ad nauseam is that when someone cuts us off or drives dangerously, we assume they're assholes instead of that they're rushing to the hospital.

There were an awful lot of people rushing to the hospital on my morning commute.

As I plop down on the couch next to @@ on the "frustration" cushion haha, I see that Tapatalk wants to frustrate me too. Posts are all out of order 20 hour old ones are at the end and newer ones are randomly mixed in pages back.

I screamed many times in my car this morning driving to work and it helped some. My wacked energy has not yet affected my work computer.

Although we do have overtime now the rest of the week. Insert grumpy face here.

Can we add another frustration cousin so there’s room for me? This day is moving so so slow and there is somebody here getting in the way of my work routine-which is just making my day go slower. 4hours and 40 minutes down. 5 hours and 20 minutes to go.

The frustration cushion is automatically expandable as needed! ️

So now I am googling to see if my therapist has died.

Thinking I may need to ask my T Friday if he has plans in place to inform clients if that happened...since he's in private practice with no receptionist or anything. And is going out of town next week...

Sometimes, you e-mail a friend when you're all anxious about whether they still want to be your friend because of a mistake you made a couple years ago (not related at all to the friend). And you assume they'll write back with reassurance. Instead, they send you a really sh***y e-mail that makes you question your 25-year friendship.

On the plus side, H is being really supportive. Glad I have a second session with T this week on Friday, though kinda wish I was seeing him tomorrow...

Like he literally signed the e-mail "For now we shall remain friends." WTF?

I have a session with Blondie in an hour-ish -- am considering taking along a single red rose.

I'm rather bored.

(And sleepy.)

Write her a poem.

“How do I rage at thee?
Let me count the ways...”

My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the........heavily polluted Ganges?

Or,

“Had we but world enough and time,
This borgieness, lady, were no crime.”

Of a sudden, it moved:
It came upon them swiftly;
It crushed them all to blood.

But some had opportunity to squeal.

If therapy be the food of love, play on?

Seems a shame to waste all this great poetry on Blondie.

Where the bee sucks, there suck I
In a therapist's lair I lie.

How would you feel if you caught your therapist hiding from you?

My therapist had an appointment a few blocks from his office, so I told him we could end our session 10 minutes early so he would have time to get there. We had a 20 minute phone session on Sunday, so I figured it evened out. As I was getting in my car, I see him come out of his building's stairwell onto the street, starts walking my way a few steps, he notices me halfway up the block, and then ducks back into the alcove. I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel about this. Did he think I was going to stalk him to his appointment? I've seen him plenty of times on the street, albeit mostly unknown to him. Should I mention it to him tomorrow? I guess I feel kind of hurt, but I don't know why.

I bought two books of regular forever stamps online and they mailed them to me in a shoebox sized package. Two little books of stamps that would have easily fit into a regular envelope.

4 minutes to go — I’ll serenade Blondie with all of them, I say.

Go get ‘er, tiger.

i do that more often than i'd like to admit during breaks like now.

LT I read your in session post, and I'm sorry if I sound harsh here that's honestly not my intention. I know sometimes life gets in the way, but people who want to stay don't need convincing. Don't settle when you deserve so much more than just being seen as a casual option and not a priority. Your DH drunk texting her isn't your fault and everyone makes mistakes- if they're not willing to look past that do you really want them as friends?

I got notice that my GP resigned effectively immediately today.. I was just going to make an appointment with him this week too. Ugh, I don’t want to go through the process of finding a new doctor! My t is best friends with my GP.. I am thinking about asking him if he could tell me what happened and maybe he was going to practice somewhere else in the area that I could follow him to. Do you think that would be rude?

I hope you did this just to play with her a bit!

xDDDDDD

I don't think it's rude to ask about the possibility of continuing your care with the same doctor, but I don't think you'll find out the reason for disclosure unless it was for something very serious like malpractice.

Thank you. I know I was pretty vague in the IST post and in this one...this was actually the last friend I talked about in that post). Where I'd told him about something bad I'd done (not to him) and felt really judged for it and was unsure if he still wanted to be my friend. Then thought maybe I'd misunderstood or that maybe we'd be OK by now (it's been 2 years). So I e-mailed him to check in, but his response was really uncertain. And his closing comment about how we're friends "for now" just felt...awful. Like, I'd be there for him pretty much no matter what. But, as I wrote back to him, I had thought our friendship was pretty much unconditional, but apparently I was wrong.

(((LT))) youre kinda treating this friend like hes your t. Youre seeing your t one more time this week, right?

What is the big deal with seeing these people? Unless its some kind of 70's style encounter group, why do you imagine there will be anything more than polite small talk?

Somebody you havent seen in two years, and who you perhaps inappropriately confessed to last time you talked, probably doesnt really want to bring up the past, except maybe to hear you say, oh yeah that was nuthin. Women might want gossipy details, but as a rule i dont think married men do, esp if they have to answer to their wives, wth was that all about?!

Thats how i see this situation. Your friend is uncomfortable with it, and you are only seeing it from your own point of view. He is thinking, how would i feel if this were my wife? He may have strong feelings about it. He is not a t!