Would you want to know if you and your therapist had a mutual friend?

Curious how people feel about this--if it turned out you and your therapist had a mutual friend (or friends) without your having realized it, would you want to know? Would you want your friend to tell you? Would you want your therapist to tell you?

I've been thinking about this since I randomly realized a few days ago that a close friend of mine is another close friend's therapist. Neither of them is aware they both know me, and it was pure bizarre coincidence that I made the connection, so an unusual/weird situation where the best way to handle it is very particular to this specific set of circumstances. But it made me wonder more generally how people on here would want their friend/therapist to handle a scenario where they realize there's an overlap!

Personally, I'd want both my friend and my therapist to mention it to me if either of them made that connection and realized I wasn't already aware. My therapist and I do have a couple of friends and professional contacts in common, and we've discussed the ones we know about; if he realized there was social overlap I wasn't aware of I would want him to tell me. I don't think any of my friends know enough about the fact that I'm in therapy to figure out who my shrink is even if they know him, but if they did I'd probably want them to find a way to offhandedly alert me to the overlap.

My ex therapist and I had quite a few acquaintances in common that I could see through facebook. We would sometimes like of comment on the same friends posts. It didn't really bother me much but I did shut down my facebook settings so she couldn't see anything on my page though.

I would both want to know and not want to know. I don't live in the same city as my T but we live in a small state that has about 2 degrees of seperation.

So I have no doubt that we at least have acquaintances in common. I rarely use names in therapy for that reason. I'm sure she is/would be professional about knowing someone I'm talking about but it makes me uncomfortable.

A friend of mine trained at the place where my T used to work as a staff psychologist. That doesn't bother me, and I obviously knew they were acquainted. I would only have reservations if there was a risk that my T and I would inadvertently end up at the same social gathering. I'm not sure who I would want to tell me. I assume that sort of thing would happen organically.

I know T and I have mutual friends. We live in a small town. I have a few friends who she use to work with. One person in particular we are both pretty close to. T is not the type of person who hangs out with people so we have not crossed paths but we have discussed our mutual admiration for the friend's family.

I am not sure how we figured out we had the mutual friend...it doesn't really matter

Only 3 people knew I saw a therapist and the one who knew the names of the therapists I hired is dead. With the therapist I usually use X and Y to designate all but a couple of people - and one of those is dead. So for me - a friend would not be able to tell me because they would not know and the only way a therapist would know is in the extremely unlikely chance that someone I knew used my full name when talking to them - and I just don't think it comes up that much.

My brother married my t's sister. Because my t and i both used our married names, there was no um crossmatching? T and i ALMOST ended up cancelling our saturday morning appt to attend our respective siblings' wedding to each other, unbeknownst to us! But my mother ended up figuring out that my brother and i were both describing the same person.

My t was GREAT when she was my brother's future SIL - she started her own business, blah blah blah. But when the family figured out this was who was "steering me wrong", trying to turn me into a lesbian like her (which i didnt know she was!), t turned into the wicked witch of the midwest. The family harassed me about my t for years.

That whole situation was organic like a shytehole is organic!

If only we were as good at turning straight people lesbian as some straight people think we are.

I know, right?!

My T and I have a lot of mutual friends, mostly writers (my T and I are both poets, among other things). A few of the mutual friends know they are mutual, while most others remain in the dark. So far nothing bad has come of it.

I would want to know, because finding out by accident could be embarrassing or exposing of my therapy in some way. T was joking with me the other day “what if you ended up making friends with my friends? I might have to quit as your therapist and just join you. “. Followed by the we can’t be friends talk. Oh well.

i only have 2 friends and one doesn't live in my state so i know we don't but if we ever did, no because my jealousy would emerge and could possibly end my friendship or i'd feel not liked enough to stay with my T