Has your t or ex t ever made you feel like you had a special relationship

No. Not really.... I assume she is the same with all of her clients.

My t has told me she really cares about me a lot of the time. She will make room for me when I need extra support and a few times has gone out of her way to really support me. Sometimes I get really confused about our relationship because I feel as though our boundaries get very blurred at times

I've been there, it sucks but I got sucked back in, lol... so I am gonna make myself crazier I am sure

This is the same for me.

Not current t but former ts have. My former case manager who was a social worker said I was one of her favorite clients. I didn't think she would be allowed to say that but she did. Another t once called unexpectedly in the middle of the week because she said she was thinking about something I said and it worried her. Yet another t said she'd pray for me.

Yes, she did and fck her for doing that.

I voted No. They never did or said anything that led me to believe I was more special than other clients. They are both kind and generous to all their clients.

One ex therapist and I are friends, but I count her in the friends category as far as relationships. Another is retired and in her eighties. She makes all kinds of European cookies for my kid when we visit during the holidays. She certainly does make my kid feel special. I used to drag him along to therapy because I was doing on-demand nursing with no bottles. They bonded back then.

no, and i would be very weirded out if she tried to say anything close to that.

I can't know how she is with me as compared to others. It seems impossible to answer this. I know that she has done a lot for me, but I have no way of knowing if that's the case for everyone she sees. It would make sense that she's consistently like that.

I get this, I know for a fact there is a few things he has only done for me.... then there is a few things he says he only does for me, I have no reason not to believe him since he is also open about things he does for everyone but yes overall, we can't be completely certain in most cases

Given how different the relationship with a therapist is from anything else, isn't it always somewhat special? Not necessarily in a positive sense or meaning that the client means something uniquely important to the T, but in terms of it being unlike other interpersonal constructs.

My last T brought up several times how unique he thought I was, not necessarily the relationship between us but me as a person. And that he treated every client individually. It did not impress, I think that everyone and every relationship is unique, it is kinda stating the obvious.

The problem is when you feel totally defective and the t did do things to make you feel special, you dont want to call them on it. Because they will just say something to make you feel more defective for thinking you were special. I am not saying necessarily more special to them than other clients but still special to the therapist. My therapist said he loves me but he says he cant love me like I'm special and unique to him.

So what does that even mean? Because in that sense, I am just a number... client xyz.

One of them said and did things that indicated I was getting special treatment. This ended in a cluster-f.

The others merely implied that the "relationship" was special in a general way, as compared to real relationships.

In all cases, what was special was almost entirely unhealthy.

In a practice that trades in emotional intimacies, i consider things like ambiguity, equivocation, feigned interest, stoking of desire -- some of the unique selling points of therapy -- to be sadistic and toxic.

Making someone feel special to you, when they really are not, while collecting payment for doing so... that is a rare sort of manipulation in my book.

The last one did, which is one reason why I left. I shocked the crap out of him when I said I was leaving.

I picked no. Mine hasn't made me feel special.

I know he cares about me, like really cares, and that is enough.

My ex therapist (just ended with her Tuesday after 20 months) made me feel special like one time after being put into a new group after ending stage 2 of DBT group was cancelled and I didn't know so Inshowed up anyway, well the receptionist called my therapist and since she wasn't seeing anyone at the moment she came out and got me and saw me, and since her next appointment didn't shown up she kept me about 45 minutes so like a full appointment even though I wasn't scheduled to see her at all. Plus one day when I had a miscommunication with the receptionist about an appointment being cancelled (which it was the wrong week and the appointment wasn't actually cancelled), she called me asking if I was okay and why I missed group and my appointment (since I had both on the same day as I had standing appointments). I don't think she would do these things for other clients, but I can't know that forsure, but it made me feel special eventhough I knew the limitations of our professional relationship, I wasn't in reality anymore special than other clients, but she made me feel special. Therapist/client relationships are interesting to say the least.

No, and the thought of it creeps me out.



A meaningful relationship, yes; special, no.

Sort of depends on what you mean as "special" the therapist client relationship for me as the client is very special because it's unique among all my other relationships, but to my therapist I'm one of many clients that she has/had/will have, so from her view it's not special and she has never done anything to make me think otherwise.

After she told me she was moving out of state, my ex t told I’d been her favorite client and that she always felt happy when she saw I was on her schedule for the day. I’m glad she told me, as I felt a special connection with her. I’m also glad she waited to tell me til we terminated because I don’t think it would be right to tell me if I was a current client.

Pdoc #1
1) Yes he did but he gave me mixed messages about it....and his license was REVOKED because I turned him in.

Pdoc before #1 -
2) Yes he did but he gave me mixed messages about it....and he is now serving time in federal prison.