[goatee]

My therapist is having a big life event this weekend. I’m allowed to email her and I know she will be checking her email.

I’m thinking about sending her an email during the weekend wishing her luck and wishing her well, but I’m not sure if doing that would actually be intrusive and annoying. I’m worried that even just seeing an email from me and thinking about work before she reads it might make her stressed out in the midst of her big life event. I’ve already bothered her and been a pain to her because of stuff in my own life during the lead up to this event. So maybe I’m better off and the best gift I can give her is actually just not emailing her at all. But I really did want her to know that I’m thinking of her and wishing her well with this. I’ve been thinking of other options, but I can’t email her before because she won’t be checking then and we have a session two days after, so it wouldn’t really pay for me to email after.

I’m totally open to any advice. I want to do whatever would be the nicest gift for her but not sure what it actually is- whether it’s for her to know I’m thinking of her or to just leave her alone.

I'd not email. I am not family. And I don't feel comfortable giving her my best wishes.
Is nothing to do with my not being worthy enough.
Is just time and place thing.

[88Butterfly88]

Personally I'd just tell her you are happy for her when you see her next.

[Lemoncake]

I emailed my T on his birthday.

He thanked me for the message and birthday present saying that he and his daughter loved it. (it was a children's book, chocolate and a £10 gift card).
I wanted him to know that I was thinking of him on that day and that I didn't forget.

If she has said it's okay to contact it's okay. Do what is best for you.

I see no problem with sending best wishes but I would not do more than that.

[LonesomeTonight]

Could you maybe send her a card instead? Or else bring a card with you to session? It's possible she won't even be checking e-mail over the weekend if she's busy with things. Or you could just send her a brief e-mail with something like 'Congratulations" as the subject line (if that's an appropriate one) so that she'd know immediately it wasn't an e-mail about something you're dealing with, so not urgent.

[DP_2017]

I would have just said it in person but since you can't, just send the email but don't expect a reply, keep it simple and brief.

[coolibrarian]

Originally Posted by goatee

My therapist is having a big life event this weekend. I’m allowed to email her and I know she will be checking her email.

I’m thinking about sending her an email during the weekend wishing her luck and wishing her well, but I’m not sure if doing that would actually be intrusive and annoying. I’m worried that even just seeing an email from me and thinking about work before she reads it might make her stressed out in the midst of her big life event. I’ve already bothered her and been a pain to her because of stuff in my own life during the lead up to this event. So maybe I’m better off and the best gift I can give her is actually just not emailing her at all. But I really did want her to know that I’m thinking of her and wishing her well with this. I’ve been thinking of other options, but I can’t email her before because she won’t be checking then and we have a session two days after, so it wouldn’t really pay for me to email after.

I’m totally open to any advice. I want to do whatever would be the nicest gift for her but not sure what it actually is- whether it’s for her to know I’m thinking of her or to just leave her alone.

Do you know what the life event is? If she gave you permission to email her this weekend, do so if you feel the need. But don't send more than 1 and don't be instrusive.

[toomanycats]

I can't see the harm in a nice email wishing her well. It's nice when others think of you and remember important/special days.

[nottrustin]

With long term I would of and have sent that type of email. I would write congratulations in the subject line. I would not expect any type of reply though as it is quite possible she would be to busy to read it.

[scorpiosis37]

I would not email. I would give her the day not to think about work, and then wish her well when you see her at your next appointment.