When you cancel, do you tell t why?

Yes, I generally tell her why I cancel. I have a standing appointment so I have to cancel any time I'm going to miss. It's usually few and far between though, and generally because I'm traveling. I did cancel on Halloween once because I wanted to take my kid trick or treating and I told her why.

Yes, I tell my therapist why if I cancel. I don't really give it much thought, it just seems like the considerate thing to do. I certainly appreciate when others explain when they have to cancel something with me. For me, if I didn't give a reason, it would indicate there was some passive aggressive reason why I was canceling.

Edit: And my Ts have always let me know why when they have canceled.

I've never really canceled on this therapist, only rescheduled, but I do tend to give a general explanation when I have to move things around--nothing extremely detailed unless it's otherwise relevant to therapy, just something like saying I'll be at a conference, or that I had a work conflict come up, or whatever else. I certainly don't feel like I have to justify or explain, though I suppose I might if it were very last minute. But it tends to feel more natural to give at least some vague reason.

I have rarely cancelled but when I did, I simply texted something along the lines of "I can't come on X day, would it be possible to reschedule?". None of the therapists ever asked me why I had to cancel and I didn't volunteer the info because I find it irrelevant.

In over 10 years I have never canceled an appointment

I never say why I'm canceling.

I don't need to

I have only cancelled once and I told t why the next session she was very good and kind.

I haven't cancelled a lot or for a long time, but the few times I did, yes I just explained why. I didn't really think About it and just as I would cancelling anything stated the reason.

I had to cancel a lot with EX-T. It was either always work related or money related. I rarely told her why I was canceling as long as I was doing it within the 24 hours the therapist request. One time I canceled for 4 sessions in a row because of money. When I went back I did tell her those 4 times in a row were because of money. She told me I could’ve just came and paid at a later time. I told her no thanks. I’m trying to get out of a hole, not create another bill. She said that made sense. Well, of course it did. Duh.

Thanks Jersey. That's the thing it's money related and I feel like I'm being responsible by canceling. I don't know why I'm so knotted up over this. My t wants 48 hrs notice which I will give her more than.

I can understand why you are knotted up over it, but you don’t need to be. You have the control to change the way you feel about canceling. Can you just keep it short and sweet? Dear T, I need to cancel our scheduled session do to finances. I will reschedule when my situation is better. Thanks, Art.

Or..
Dear T,
I need to cancel our next session. I will reschedule at a later date. Thanks, Art.

Done. A few words is all it takes.
Maybe your knotted up because you want to go even though you have other financial responsibilities right now? I’ve fought with those feelings a lot. But I got the courage to just stand up and think for myself:
“No! I need to take care of this other stuff first. If I go when I can’t afford it then it just makes the money situation worse. T might be helping in other ways, but she doesn’t pay the bills and I need to put those first right now.” When I thought of it like that, I was able to feel different about canceling.

I have never cancelled a session but I guess I would tell him the reason. (in very little detail tho..like "I am sick" or "I cannot make it bc of school") ---> he always tells me why if he cancels a session so I think it would be appropriated that I do too.