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Old Apr 08, 2018, 11:29 PM
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My therapist will sometimes share when it has a relationship to the immediate discussion. It doesn't bother me to know personal things about my therapist.

Our conversations are like coffee chats with me doing most of the talking, but I do learn a little about her, but not her family. She said years ago she decided to be an open book and answer questions of a personal nature if a client asked. I asked 18 months into our relationship. It has not damaged our relationship. It has helped me to be more patient and companionate to myself and to people in the real world.

When I did attachment therapy I asked questions of a personal nature all the time. She always answered. At times I did it to see if she would response. She never failed to answer, no matter how over the top.None of my therapist shared with out a point. With this therapist it was about getting a yes... instead of it's not your business. I could not take a blank slate therapist.

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Old Apr 08, 2018, 11:53 PM
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I think telling or not telling clients about personal things is hard to manage as you never know how a certain client will react. Some wants information and some don´t but I think everything that has to do with openly showing affections towards a partner or other relatives, like kissing in a hallway, is very inappropriate.

I think talking about medicines can affect the client's trust negatively as a client might begin to think that the T suddenly will have to take a break because of illness or similar. I would personally begin to wonder if the T is healthy enough to work.

I don´t see why a therapist should tell about things like retirement as all such family plans can be a reminder of what the client doesn´t have her/himself. That´s because it ´s common that clients enter therapy because of issues like loneliness, difficult family relations and then why tell the client about "happy plans". That makes no sense to me, it only seems harmful.

Yes, exactly.

They know I’m a young widow on top of all the other issues.
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Old Apr 09, 2018, 01:44 AM
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I want to know a lot about my t, and I do for better or worse. It’s a double edged sword. I want to know who I’m talking to but I also get jealous. And some of the things he believes make me wish he were a hard science guy at heart.
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Old Apr 09, 2018, 08:05 AM
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I’ve written about a little of this before, but I’m zeroing in on it more now.

I really don’t want personal information about my T. It bothers me. I want to see them as a professional T, and that is all.

My last T met her boyfriend down in the lobby because she forgot her keys to the office. She took the keys and then kissed him, right in front of me. I wasn’t expecting it. Ugh, gross, please. Besides, I didn’t want to know that was your squeeze anyway.

She also told me that she was on medication for depression and it was working (please don’t tell me TMI).

My T before that liked to talk about his wife, and yes I know who she is too. And he told me about their retirement plans. I don’t want to stress out about when you retire.

I hate knowing anything.

How do you feel about it?
I’m with you. I saw one shrink for ten-years and knew him casually but never knew where he lived or much else. We were ‘therapy-friends,’ I’ve written. Polite, yes, but we both respected the idea that he was the professional in his office. I, on the other hand, was at the peak of a long-running mania and he knew everything about me.

I would be disturbed to learn that my shrink uses Facebook.

That would be so unsettling. I think that you must be a Facebook member to search for others? Then I need not worry.
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Old Apr 10, 2018, 02:18 AM
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As terrible as it sounds, I don't want to see my therapist as a person outside of the version of him that exists in our sessions. I tell him things I'm deeply ashamed of and trust him not to judge me and to handle everything like a professional. The more I see a therapist as a person, the more I worry about them judging me or being disappointed in me or being unable to handle something that I disclose.
I've had therapists in the past who did a lot of self disclosure. I'm glad my current one doesn't. Sure, I may be curious at times, but I don't want anything unrelated to my therapy to interfere with my ability to place my faith in him as it relates to my therapy.
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Old Apr 10, 2018, 10:03 AM
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For me, it was essential to know one key detail about her personal life, right at the first session. I had no idea we shared this kind of bond, and it was comforting to know she'd be able to help me even more so than a therapist that hadn't experienced that would. But too much information can get on the way. I'm going through transference right now, and at the beginning of therapy, I would frantically search for her personal info. Now, I've seen enough. lol
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Old Apr 10, 2018, 10:17 AM
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interesting discussion about the varying motives and ideas regarding therapy - its purpose and its methodology. Do you think that the therapist and/or psychiatrist actually reads what sort of therapy that is best for us or that which we would prefer?

Perhaps the reason I don't know anything about my psychiatrist is that he recognises the barrier I have put up about it. Perhaps then he has patients he conducts himself in the complete opposite manner. Maybe he does have patients he is closer to and maybe he even is in communication with them outside of their sessions. I suppose then I should be thankful that he recognises those limits I have myself placed upon the doctor/patient relationship. Thoughts?
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