[MissCharlotte]

Teenagers need love. They need guidance and support and they need to come up against strong, strong, flexible walls. Most of all they must be noticed, no matter how hard they try to hide. When there is chaos in family life young teens may well disappear--figuratively and literally.

My 13 year old self came to T this week. But that self is invisible because she was not noticed. She was yelled at but not really noticed. So, when circumstances conspire to recreate the chaos in my mind, I naturally fall into the space that is always waiting for me. I yearn for T to notice me. I want him to take care of me without me telling him what I need. I want him to take me out to a movie and to the diner for a burger and a milkshake. And I want the movie to be one that I choose like Romeo and Juliette. And I want him to buy me a new, warm, winter coat that fits properly with gloves, hat and scarf that match. And boots that have fuzzy stuff inside to keep your feet warm. Is that too much to ask for?

Sigh. Then I would feel loved.

I don't want to be invisible. Yet I don't know how to re-appear on command. The feelings must be worked through.

[(JD)]

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I hope this is referring to the present and then the past? If T yelled at you, in any form or fashion, then it probably needs to be addressed!

It sounds like your teen self doesn't feel quite safe enough to speak yet. Seek an introduction type sentence that you/she can use to begin talking about the way you felt "back then" or things that occurred that (merely) upset you/her. From Ts response to those "easy" topics you will know if it's safe to test the waters with teen's feelings.

TC!

[MissCharlotte]

The invisibility was both then and now...

The yelling was then.

There is no "merely" about it. It was real. Her family was homeless at that time and that is just the tip of the iceberg. Nothing was easy then. Nothing.

She did speak to T. She came but then retreated. He was gentle and kind. He would never yell. They (family of origin) weren't.

Peace

[Christina86]

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[Fuzzybear]

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