How do you know when it's time?

Been with my therapist for over a decade, but recently we seem to be butting heads way too often, and I can tell she is often frustrated with me.

Thinking maybe it's time to take a break from therapy and then start shopping for a new therapist. But I really like my therapist and she has helped me SO much, I keep going back and forth on trying to work through this or is it just time

You've answered your own question and it is time.

If you're thinking about it, it's probably time. Since you have been in therapy for so long have you entertained putting what you learned to use and see how you do without it. It all might go okay.

Yes, I agree, you've answered your own question. My last therapist terminated me, I didn't think I was ready to go out all on my own, and maybe I haven't been, but sometimes it just is what it is. And I was so mad -- still am -- with my last therapist and with the whole therapy process that I did not go looking for another therapist.

Maybe your T could give you some tips on leaving? Or you could come back occasionally?

What kind of other support do you have in your life? What do you feel you still need therapy for?

Maybe you could just take a break without making it into a permanent decision? E.g. take a month out and then schedule some sessions a month apart. That way it is not a final decision and you could take the pressure off yourself about making a final decision and just test out to see how you feel in the weeks when you don't go to therapy.

One of the reasons for thinking about leaving is we are still on good terms and I would like to keep it that way. Leaving as a choice, instead of waiting until she terminates me would mean that coming back would be a possibility.

Why not take a break, try out some new ones, and then see how you feel about it?