My new therapist was literally cool when I told them about thinking about euthanasia
I also told them about all my main problems and they’d insist otherwise and about other things needed to attend to
It’s like a wounded person showing WHERE THE F*** THE SCARS ARE, and the doctor just starts checking for ear infections and other issues instead

This is getting hopeless, they were my best bet and now they’re acting stubborn and unattentive to what I say

I just want them to listen to me and TRUST me, but they seem untrusting and really, I don’t care why, I want those BLEEDING SCARS TAKEN CARE OFF FOR F***s SAKE!!

This is NOT a rant, this is an EMERGENCY I work HARD to explain to my therapist and they don’t internalize the pain well!

So my question is, HOW! do I make the therapist understand that what I am saying is to be trusted and taken care of AS I SAID!?
Again, think of the “the wounded and the doctor metaphor” I gave you

EDIT: Due to the last user’s post, I will mentioned that I do NOT want opposing views towards my request. If you want to deparately tell it, then you’re more than invited to send me a message, but NOT on this thread.
Here is where I ask for help regarding what I ask, so please respect that. Thank you

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

To be honest, I do not think that you should have to make your T understand that you can be trusted and that you need help with the things you said. I rather think that should be the obvious thing a T does, unless they know you very well and can judge that you are just trying to get around talking about the real issues or something like that. And since this is a new T plus you said that wasn't the case, they should let you take the lead on what needs to be addressed.

As you said, this T was your best option so far. I don't know what your options are, personally I'd try searching for someone else. But if you want this T another shot, maybe go back and clearly state what bothered you. Tell them that you find them to be the best option so far, but that they seemed very dismissive and not understanding of your situation. Tell them clearly what you'd like from them and why. Maybe also ask for the reasons why they think something else should be worked on first, maybe there is a good reason for that suggestion.

Finally, about your therapist acting cool when you tell them you think about suicide, I think that might be just the Ts way of wanting to show that they are not repulsed or scared by this statement, since that is oftentimes the reaction that people get, which is not a very helpful reaction. But I can of course see why it would be bothersome.

Originally Posted by ChickenNoodleSoup

To be honest, I do not think that you should have to make your T understand that you can be trusted and that you need help with the things you said. I rather think that should be the obvious thing a T does, unless they know you very well and can judge that you are just trying to get around talking about the real issues or something like that. And since this is a new T plus you said that wasn't the case, they should let you take the lead on what needs to be addressed.

As you said, this T was your best option so far. I don't know what your options are, personally I'd try searching for someone else. But if you want this T another shot, maybe go back and clearly state what bothered you. Tell them that you find them to be the best option so far, but that they seemed very dismissive and not understanding of your situation. Tell them clearly what you'd like from them and why. Maybe also ask for the reasons why they think something else should be worked on first, maybe there is a good reason for that suggestion.

Finally, about your therapist acting cool when you tell them you think about suicide, I think that might be just the Ts way of wanting to show that they are not repulsed or scared by this statement, since that is oftentimes the reaction that people get, which is not a very helpful reaction. But I can of course see why it would be bothersome.

Look I get it, you think I shouldn’t make the therapist understand, but this is an emergency, and I have the RIGHT problems in my hands, the right events which occured and hurt me and I get no remedy for it. No I don’t expect a quick cure, but I expect to see the process towards THAT problem
THEN, you can talk about deep issues like “how you got into this in the first place”, “how to prevent it from happening”, or “how to beat the odds”

I am not going to debate with you on this thread. If you want to debate then send me a message

So anyway, I am frustrated my calls for help and clear wounds are unanswered, and to think like the above poster said that “you are just trying to get around talking about the real issues or something like that” is both an insult and a spit to my face, as I described about what could happen in my mentioned metaphor in the OP
But thanks for taking your time to respond though

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

Using your metaphor: if you show your doctor scars and they start looking at your ear and check for infections instead, then you say "hey doc, wtf, I don't like that you are doing that right now, maybe we can check for that later, but listen to me, right now you need to look at these scars and help me with those"

I fully understand that you would like to continue seeing this T, and that is fine. As I said, in that case you should go to them and clearly state what bothered you about their response to what you said. You say they didn't answer the way you'd liked them to. So tell them, say "you insisted we attend to different things first" and that this bothered you. The only way to make your T understand is to tell them that something they said bothered you.

Also, I didn't say at all that you are trying to get around talking about real issues. I said that IF your T knew you really, really well (and you said it was a new T, so he clearly does not), then MAYBE he could say something like that. But that clearly is not the case and therefore it does not apply here. I'm sorry it came across that way.

[satsuma]

I don't really understand all of the issue, unfortunately, but if you know you are in an emergency then it might be a good idea to go to the ER.

[Middlemarcher]

Here on the forums, you seem to be able to easily and clearly communicate what you do and do not want to talk about and focus on. Is it as easy for you to do this in person with your therapist? If yes, how do they react when you do? If no, could you write something down in advance, or print out this thread, and bring it into session to have your therapist read it? Or read it aloud to them?

I manage to eventually make them understand, but it takes some “shaking” unfortunately
They also called it “just talking”. Despite the potential for recovery, the apathy is sometimes getting me more hopeless than it does otherwise
But I started feeling much more well after the last meeting - ALLOT more well