[Inner_Firefly]

What should I do for the rest of the day? I sat and cried for a while, now I'm just staring into space in shock.

[maybeblue]

She's leaving for good? Like she is quitting her job? It sounds like it was pretty sudden. I'm really sorry. Do you have a referral to someone new?

As far as what to do for the rest of the day, if it were me I'd probably try to find someone to be with...maybe not talk about it depending on who it was, but just be with someone instead of all alone. If that's not possible maybe post more here? Take care of yourself. It's going to take some time to feel better I'm sure.

[Skeezyks]

I'm spending my day here on PC. Oh... & I need to take the dog for a short walk. (It's too hot out to go very far...) If it's not too hot where you are, perhaps just go for a nice walk. Hope you begin to feel better soon.

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by maybeblue

She's leaving for good? Like she is quitting her job? It sounds like it was pretty sudden. I'm really sorry. Do you have a referral to someone new?

As far as what to do for the rest of the day, if it were me I'd probably try to find someone to be with...maybe not talk about it depending on who it was, but just be with someone instead of all alone. If that's not possible maybe post more here? Take care of yourself. It's going to take some time to feel better I'm sure.

Hi Maybeblue, Thank you for your kind message, I really appreciate your understanding. It is very sudden, she's leaving for good, she'll give a referral. You're right, I should take good care and hang out on this forum.

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

I'm spending my day here on PC. Oh... & I need to take the dog for a short walk. (It's too hot out to go very far...) If it's not too hot where you are, perhaps just go for a nice walk. Hope you begin to feel better soon.

Hi Skeezyks, sounds like a good day, take care of yourself, thank you for your good wishes!

[ruh roh]

Geez. She can't even see you in person to talk about this? I am so sorry.

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

Geez. She can't even see you in person to talk about this? I am so sorry.

Hi Ruh Roh, Thank you so much, actually she said I can go in one last time to say goodbye. Still it's a shock! It's nice to have your support and to hang out with everyone here.

[mcl6136]

Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly

What should I do for the rest of the day? I sat and cried for a while, now I'm just staring into space in shock.

GAH!!!! As difficult as it is to establish rapport with a T, and then the specter of something like this always lingers. Just leaving? It would be maddening to me, especially since when clients leave Ts, there's this (sometimes unspoken and sometimes spelled out) assumption that there's going to be a series of appointments.

I'm sorry that you're going through this, and I hope you have a set of things that you can do to stay grounded and tactics that can help. I hope you can fall back on things you know to be true for you.

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

Geez. She can't even see you in person to talk about this? I am so sorry.

Originally Posted by mcl6136

GAH!!!! As difficult as it is to establish rapport with a T, and then the specter of something like this always lingers. Just leaving? It would be maddening to me, especially since when clients leave Ts, there's this (sometimes unspoken and sometimes spelled out) assumption that there's going to be a series of appointments.

I'm sorry that you're going through this, and I hope you have a set of things that you can do to stay grounded and tactics that can help. I hope you can fall back on things you know to be true for you.

Indeed, isn't it so scary that the fear lingers that a therapist can leave after getting attached?! Thank you so much, it helps just to talk about it here. You're very kind!

[toomanycats]

I'm so so sorry...how incredibly painful and heartbreaking...
Do you think you'll go in for a final session?

I would definitely try looking for other Ts soon if that feels right to you at all... when I lost my T, I really needed support and help getting through it.
Big hugs.

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by toomanycats

I'm so so sorry...how incredibly painful and heartbreaking...
Do you think you'll go in for a final session?

I would definitely try looking for other Ts soon if that feels right to you at all... when I lost my T, I really needed support and help getting through it.
Big hugs.

Thank you, sending hugs right back at you! I'm sorry you've experienced it too. Sounds like a tough time for you too. It's good to hear your advice, I'll be sure to go in for a final session and ask for a referral to another T. I really appreciate your support!

[weaverbeaver]

So sorry this is happening
What a shock for you. Were you very attached to your t?
Do you know if she is retiring,moving to a new office, starting private practise?
Maybe she is just leaving the Centre where you see her and there will be an opportunity to see her elsewhere?