Therapists in therapy

Oh I am sorry I thought you meant like going out for coffee or something. Not to set you up with services if needed.

My T sees a T, but has never talked about why she’s in therapy (or how often, or how long,etc...). I know of some serious issues she’s had in the past, but she seems recovered from them now. It doesn’t bother me, though it would if her therapy issues crept into the room.

My therapist has made references to her own therapy, usually in the context of disclosing something she learned that she is now passing on to me. But those disclosures are definitely the exception, not the rule, and she never lingers on the topic.

I don’t have issues with the “wounded healer” concept. Maybe because I think we’re all wounded. But yeah, I wouldn’t want to know too many of the details of the woundedness.

Most therapists have been in therapy at some point, whether or not they have mental illness. My T doesn’t have a mental illness, but she openly admitted to me that she’s been in therapy before.

I found the typical therapist concealment and blank screen persona more concerning than any disclosure. In the bizarro world of therapy, things that threaten to normalize the relationship are viewed with suspicion, whereas extreme asymmetry is considered healthy.

I think most therapists have been in therapy at some point. I find the “blank screen” persona more concerning personally. I wouldn’t want a therapist who was “indifferent” to me. (Not that the blank screen “persona” would necessarily mean this). I would like to feel that my therapist and I share a common “humanity”. I hope this makes sense.

my t refers to her own process from time to time and also reminds me that she has her own t. myself i appreciate the wounded healer thing, it feels genuine to me when she said she understands some particular thing I'm going through because she's been there herself. I'm not sure how beneficial a t who has had some perfect golden life and who has no flaws would be in helping me heal, I would not be able to relate to that at all. My t's realness is important to me. that she's willing to be there with her whole self flaws and all has meant so much to me.