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Old May 29, 2018, 12:40 PM
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Today I had an appoinment with T2 and another T. This other T also work at this practise. It was an appointment that is nessescary to have once in a while, for health insurance purpose.
 
T1 is now my weekly T. T2 was that before, but now T1 is it. Long story. They all work at the same place. I have some issues with T2. I wanted to solve that. Last Friday we had a session and I felt that she was finally open en more honest. I thought there was a beginning to trusting her again. (I have severe attachment to her, but there was a huge rupture.)
 
T1 had talked about some extra help for me. She told me it would be for at home and it would be extra, so I would still have the therapy I have now.
Today we also talked about it and other T told me something. I asked for clarification. I asked: ''so if I would have treatment at that place (what T1 suggested to me) I would have to quit treatment here''. Other T said yes, but also if you don't get treatment at that place, you would have to quit treatment here.
So they want me gone. They don't feel they offer the right treatment for me. I got so angry and overwhelmed, I walked away from them.
 
T1 never said anything about me having to quit. Neither has T2. This was the first time I heard about it. I don't want to leave there. They know I don't want to start with another T. I wanted to go back to T2. I know have said some bad things about her, but I've also said I wanted her as T. I've also said I wanted CBT. And T2 is a CBT therapist. This past year I haven't had the right treatment. Partly my fault, partly the T's fault. I've said that only talking doesn't help me, I need some kind of assignments for between sesssion. And with CBT you get that. When I had CBT, there was some improvement. Slow, but there was improvement.
 
After I got home, I contacted my GP. She had to sign me up at this place T1 wanted me to go and T1 would call my GP about it. I discovered it was an other practise that offers therapy. This wasn't what T1 and I had discussed. So I don't understand T. What has she done? This wasn't what I agreed to. She never talked about me having to quit with her. I've told her I didn't want to another T or pactise. Iwanted T2 as my weekly T again.
 
I haven't had contact with either T's about this. I've sent them a mail, but I think they will don't read it until Thursday.
Maybe I shouldn't have walked away. But it was a complete shock to me.
Now I've to wait for them to answer me. I also have a session this Friday. I wonder what she will tell me. It's obvious that T1 lied to me. This I know for sure. But why? I thought I could trust her.

I need to talk about this to them. I need to hear their story. But right now I feel so bad. Sad. Lost.
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Old May 29, 2018, 12:53 PM
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Therapists are not supposed to lie
If you suspect they lie than it's time to leave
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Old May 29, 2018, 01:41 PM
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I'm sorry, this sounds very difficult. Is it possible that T2 didn't lie, but just didn't realize that was the practice's policy? Or that maybe the other T was wrong about you having to leave there? I hope they can clarify with you...
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Old May 29, 2018, 05:06 PM
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I'm sorry, this sounds very difficult. Is it possible that T2 didn't lie, but just didn't realize that was the practice's policy? Or that maybe the other T was wrong about you having to leave there? I hope they can clarify with you...


T2 was present at this appointment. I don't know for sure if she knows. T1 is my weekly T. She suggested extra help. But what she talked to me about is something else than what she signed me up for through my GP.
In my country you can't have help at different therapy practises. That has to do with health insurance. T's know this.
I don't know the English/American names for what I've talked about with T1. But what she had suggested to me, that would be as an extra help. Next to the therapy I have with her. She would look that up for me and sign me up there. But now I've found out she signed me up at a new therapy practise. This is different than what we've talk about.
And T1 should know this. And she had also said she talked about it with this other T.
But it's very clear that T1 has done something else than what we've talked about.

I've an appointment with T1 and T2 this Friday. So I'm curious what she has to say about this.

But still. That other T said I'll have to quit therapy at this practise either way. And they can quit me. They can say that they don't think they can offer me the right treatment and that's it. Even if I don't agree. Most practises here take health Insurance. And the health insurances want the treatment to be as short as possible. There are also private practises, but I can't afford that for a longer time. And changing T's every time isn't good for me.
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Old May 29, 2018, 05:33 PM
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This seems so confusing i would print off what you wrote her and tell them you where told you were going to recieve extra help and now they seemed to changed there minds. I would be honest how you feel some times working with 2 therapists they sometimes have there own agendas. I used to have two therapists at the clinic i go to now im only with one. Last fall the one therapist i do not see anymore tried to terminate my file, after Febuary. Thankfully my psychologist (therapist) has really shifted since that one left my case file. It was so confusing til the 1 therapist is no longer involved. I would trust the main therapist. Im sorry if my post sounds confusing just wanted to let you know i can relate to you. Hugs
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Old May 29, 2018, 06:34 PM
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It will be good to talk to them both at the appointment on Friday to clarify what they are talking about. It seems like their proposition blindsided you and I don't know about you but I am blindsided I can feel overwhelmed and struggle to process information.

Hopefully when you see them on Friday you will be better able to process what they are saying. From what you've said it seems like they are wanting to refer to a different treatment center that offers something different to what they offer, even though this isn't what you want (to go back to T2). See what they can tell you on Friday and maybe have some questions written down to ask as well?
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Old Jun 01, 2018, 08:49 AM
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I've talked to them today. I'm not in a state to write about it right now. But in short; they talked about me in the team and decided I should quit treatment at this practise. They think it's best for me. I don't agree. I wanted to go back to T2 and have CBT again. So far that has been the only therapy that had helped me. But they also don't think it good for me to have her as my T for a longer time, probably because of the attachmant I have to her. But making me quit while I'm not ready yet. I thought you should work on attachment with the T. That's what I've read about it. I don't have that with every T. She was the only one. And that I will be having to quit, it scares me, it hurts me. I just can't right now.

I'm now in so much pain. T1 has lied about it to me. She didn't handled it right and she should have know better. I find it hard to believe anything they say right now.

They want be to go somewhere else. I feel like I can't do that anymore. Another waitinglist. Getting a new T again. And then it's the question if that T is alright. The T I've now is the only one I've trusted. T2 was the only one who was able to help me. Even though we had a huge rupture. Last session I thought we had a good talk. I thought things could be better. But after that one appointment in which another T told me I have to quit.

I'm such a mess. A bigger one that I already was. I feel so alone. I can't stop crying.
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