[MatBell]

I try to hold back and not do it at every impulse. But I would like to know how often others do it. During rough times it can be a lot.

[DP_2017]

Depends what your t is ok with. Ask your boundaries. I'm allowed whenever but he wont always reply. Unless its like a death or something he ignores all clients contact on weekends. It sucks but it forces me to do other things to cope. Just ask her

[maybeblue]

Maybe a couple of times a week? It actually varies quite a bit. I always email her for schedule changes and I email her an agenda before each session. But I don't really count those.

When I am having an especially difficult time, like I have been recently it's more frequently. But I went through a long stable time where it was almost never between sessions. It almost always makes me feel anxious when I feel like I do it too much. She has been reassuring that I haven't been. But there is still the fear that this particular email is pushing it over the threshold. I do expect her to respond in some way. I don't expect her to do therapy over email other than maybe a quick reassuring statement. I haven't been able to pin her down on how much is too much, but she has told me that if it gets to be too much she will let me know and won't just stop responding.

I say if it makes you anxious at all you might as well bring it up in session. Otherwise from my experience it just eats at you

[eye2797]

when in need. If I need to change appt or cancel. most of the time she responds.

[JaneTennison1]

I can text, looking back I would say 95% of my texts are scheduling

[junkDNA]

it used to be a lot. I'm pretty sure I've done what's considered to be harassment. not proud of that but it is what it is. I'm getting better with it. I discovered it was a bit of a compulsion for me to deal with certain thoughts. thank God for Ts rock solid patience lol 🖤

I have DID, and my therapist and I live in different countries, so our relationship is quite different than usual. that said, i may text her once or twice a day, or sometimes not at all, lr sometimes several times a day. My therapist has no obligation to read them at a certain time; she will get to them when she has time. Sometimes she answers back, sometimes she doesnt. Theres no pressure.
Sometimes we text because its something difficult going on. sometimes its to tell her something funny. sometimes she texts me pictures of her cats.

[precaryous]

I rarely text. I’ve texted when I had a mini stroke and I’ve texted when we were talking about something serious over the phone but the phone went dead.

If I think it’s serious and I want her attention sooner than later, I text.

[MatBell]

Sometimes I wonder if my ability to text just makes me more dependent of her. But I’m grateful I can do it. I’ve recently had some rough periods and without knowing she was there I don’t know what I would do. I don’t expect her to write back quickly at all, but just knowing that another person knows what I’m going through and how I’m feeling helps me.

[seeker33]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

I have DID, and my therapist and I live in different countries, so our relationship is quite different than usual. that said, i may text her once or twice a day, or sometimes not at all, lr sometimes several times a day. My therapist has no obligation to read them at a certain time; she will get to them when she has time. Sometimes she answers back, sometimes she doesnt. Theres no pressure.
Sometimes we text because its something difficult going on. sometimes its to tell her something funny. sometimes she texts me pictures of her cats.

I'm in online therapy and it's very, very similar to this :-)

[abusedtoy]

My T says many times without me asking that I can text her whenever need be and she promised, without me asking that she will respond me everytime.

[ChickenNoodleSoup]

All the texts I send are in some kind related to scheduling. Either it's something like 'I'm gonna run late', which I just send when it's appropriate. Might happen a couple of times a year. Or then it's something more serious, like that I'm really struggling and don't know how to get through until my next session. In those cases I get a text back with either an offer for an extra session or a phone call. Those texts happen about once a month on average.

[GeekyOne]

I text occasionally (2-3x/month maybe? On average?) but it usually results in her saying we should talk on the phone. Lately I’ve tried to decide if my issue is urgent enough to “warrant” interrupting her life with a phone call (my worries, not hers - she says call if I need to). Then I’ll either just call or wait till our next session.

[growlycat]

Sometimes we do not text at all, maybe just appointment reminders the day before if we are meeting at a strange time or day.

I can text in moderation. I usually save it for a crisis or feeling bad but lately he has let me check in midweek just to say hi. I might send him a pic of wildlife I captured on my phone camera or maybe something funny.

[Sarah1985]

Everyday

[toomanycats]

I only ever text about appointments (e.g., "I'm running late") or in the super rare instance I need an emergency phone call (maybe 2x in the last year).

But, I email a lot. I've lost count of how much. Daily, sometimes. But then I'll have a week where I don't need to email at all.

[Leah123]

I'm also in online therapy and we write (not technically text, but similar) constantly, meaning typically something every day. While that's rare in traditional therapy, it's increasingly common in online therapy where most of the communication is often written, like on services such as BetterHelp. Ours is a weird hybrid of Skype and chat, with the occasional email card thrown in. There isn't a limit per se, but typically I do not write on weekends.