Therapist or support groups ..

I consulted a therapist who was chronically clueless, at best

His “shafting” and other weird and aggressive use of words (and messed up and forced boundaries) caused me “too much” harm.

I was his test bear to learn on and experiment on (at best )

I could have put up with that for a year or two years.



But his insane spinning vortex of judgments and attacks bouncing off the walls would have hurt anyone.

I suppose some might wonder what is “wrong” with me that I didn’t simply quit

by phone or email and cut him out of my life.

One cut. One bite and I’d be rid of him.

But still he haunts me

There is other stuff I don’t share. So it really isn’t “that simple”

Oh bad paws. My original question I think was do you prefer a therapist or a support group.

Then I got lost in a rant

Hugs to all <3

PS I may be more than my “usual crazy”

I took a serokill this morning as I wasn’t up to putting up with all the suv optimal and scary thoughts in my fuzzy brain

I don’t have an allergy rash from that (yet)

Therapists. Groups of people make me anxious

Groups - I don’t just get one person’s “crazy”

I am honestly trying to understand my whole experience.

That is what I went into therapy for.. understanding and insight.

Instead I received,... what

Grrrrrrr

I don’t have time to read all my back posts. When I share, I share The Truth or at least my honest perceptions. Too bad some therapists don’t like that (in particular T1

I also try to be mindful of others sensitivities....,

But you know what. Surprise, fuzzy bear isn’t perfect

I find your posts quite cryptic and difficult to understand.

I’m sorry to hear that. I try to be as clear as I can but I don’t always succeed.

Also I don’t have time currently to read all the back posts here

To familiarise myself with all the posters and their histories and different sensitivities.. which everyone has... sensitivities

But yeah... in real life some people find me hard to understand

I don’t have massive numbers of understanding friends but I do have some good friends <3

I don't read back posts either. It's hard to imagine that they are anything other than the same stuff regurgitated on different days by different people. Or indeed the same stuff by the same people. I know that my issues with therapy are repetitive and recurring. No special case here.

That makes me think of changing a baby’s nappy .....

I prefer a therapist. I can't imagine sharing problems with a group of strangers. I used to have a great group of friends at high school. We lived in a dorm and we shared a lot of deep personal stuff, which might have served as a form of therapy.
But going to an artificial group of randomly matched people... That wouldn't feel safe to me.
Although I do feel safe here on this forum. So maybe this is my group therapy...

Definitely support groups for me. Therapy helped nothing to very little with my primary issues (addiction and anxiety) but peer groups, also one-on-one interactions with someone currently or historically with similar experiences, made big differences. Even about the more minor problems I tend to have, peers are the best social remedy for me. And I am very much an introvert.

I am not brave enough for group therapy. I like the idea of it though.

Thanks for this post