[bluebutterfly]

I have finally gotten to the point where I can look at him for more than a second. Now I notice that his eyes are all over the place. Maybe he was doing that before and I just didn't notice. I'll have to pay more attention to this. I'm just curious if anyone here has noticed whether or not sustained eye contact is made between your T and yourself.

Peace

Yes. And she always blinks first.

[Perna]

My T was always steady but my husband is not :-) He always looks over my shoulder when he's kissing me; sometimes it's so strong a feeling that I look to see if anyone is standing there or something is happening, even when we're in our own home! LOL

[sunrise]

Yes, my T is very good at looking me in the eye, and I love that. Sometimes I can't sustain his gaze, but I do like it, and try to meet it when I can. My husband does not look me in the eye when he talks to me. Even though I know this is just an engrained habit of his, it makes him seem kind of shifty, IMO, and can make me feel that I am not even there. I love that my T looks directly in my eyes.

[Perna]

I think sometimes, when someone is talking (if that's when you look at him most, when he's talking), people can be thinking of what they're saying and their eyes do a lot of "bouncing" back and forth because they're thinking rather than concentrating on the person in front of them. See if you can look at him when you are talking instead and see if he looks at you, concentrates on you and what you're saying then, or look at him at both times and compare :-)

haha...sustained eye contact? i do know he has a face... and there are eyes there... but i am far more able to describe the carpet pattern than his face. Seriously. i have not been able to look up at him very much in the past 9 months.

one day he wanted to make a point very clear to me and he had to ask me to look at him.

i sometimes have relied on this mental health center director for a little support (mostly logistical but it means she knows my situation).. and she said it was a year before i would look up at her.

what's funny is that you would never expect that from me. i'm a bit of a wild child... very out there and extroverted. i walk into places like i own them. It's a very effective act.

Its hard for me, always has been and I've spoke to my T about it. When I look at her she's always right in my eyes...I feel safe yes very scared to look deep as she is into me. I told her why..the reason is , is because of my erotic transference i dont want to get a weird feeling that isn't true but just for me......But I want to look..without those thoughts....