[Rive1976]

So my T doesn't come out and say I am fat but she does it in other ways. Are you eating too much? Excersizing? It gets on my nerves. Would it bother you? She is real mind and body oriented.

[LabRat27]

It would bother me if the comments were unsolicited (like if you hadn't given any indication that your weight was something you wanted to discuss).
The obvious response is to suggest that you talk to her about how it makes you feel, but I know it's easier said than done.

I took it kind of personally when I was talking to my therapist about my ED and I'm at a "medically healthy" weight and he thinks I shouldn't be trying to lose weight, but when I was saying the negative feelings I have about my body he asked about/suggested exercise, and that felt like he was agreeing that I should change something about my body but just thought that given my history it would be a bad idea for me to start restricting again

[SlumberKitty]

It would really bother me if a T did that to me.

[Fuzzybear]

T2 just said “you’ve put on weight”

How “helpful” and insightful .. not

[kecanoe]

I wonder if your T might be saying that because of concern that overeating and not exercising can be symptoms of depression. Do they ask about other symptoms?

I think it is fine to ask them why they are asking.

[Rive1976]

Originally Posted by kecanoe

I wonder if your T might be saying that because of concern that overeating and not exercising can be symptoms of depression. Do they ask about other symptoms?

I think it is fine to ask them why they are asking.

Yes that's why but she is only taking others word that I am depressed not mine .

[seeker33]

Yes that would bother me a lot. I know very well how difficult it is to care about one's body during depression. However mentioning it will only make things much worse, making you even more ashamed. Personally, if someone in the past commented on my weight, I usually over ate in order to numb the shame and disgust. Another option was some short term unhealthy diet bordering on Ed. However since I've always been overweight /obese no one was bothered by my pathological relationship with food. Unfortunately slim people will never understand how hurtful and counterproductive their comments are.

[Bipolarchic14]

Originally Posted by Dnester

So my T doesn't come out and say I am fat but she does it in other ways. Are you eating too much? Excersizing? It gets on my nerves. Would it bother you? She is real mind and body oriented.

I have an undeniable weight problem so both therapist and lcsw aka med prescriber, mention healthier eating and exercise frequently. Something to be said to that though. Both are known to help with mental health. Additionally, idk if you experience the same thing, but i overeat and gain weight when depressed. I think i look at my weight issue differnetly though. Being labled as fat,to me, is an insult. Being labeled as overweight is a simple fact. With that said i do feel as though i am judged more and not treated as seriously because i am overweight. That hurts alot.

[Anne2.0]

I think it's reasonable for a T to raise the issue, as a check-in on how you feel about it.

I also think it's reasonable for you to say, I don't want to discuss it. Move along.

[Moment]

You ask “would it bother you,” but the important thing is that it bothers you.
It’s really important to talk about these kinds of things in therapy. If your therapist does something that really bothers you, you should bring it up and talk to them. Directly. Your therapist should respond non defensively And listen to what you’re saying.

These questions may be questions that your therapist asks to every single client. Especially if your therapist is very interested in a mind and body connection. I know that for me personally, eating too much and not exercising makes me even more depressed than I already am. It’s a problem that has nothing to do with my weight.

Originally Posted by Dnester

So my T doesn't come out and say I am fat but she does it in other ways. Are you eating too much? Excersizing? It gets on my nerves. Would it bother you? She is real mind and body oriented.

Therapy is the place where we speak up about stuff.
You could say what you've said here.

[Seelenna1982]

I would definitely bring it up if it bothers you. Do you feel your weight relates to your therapy? Have you brought it up? Are you happy with your health and your weight? Really for me it’s a health desire rather than a number on the scale desire. I just want to feel healthy and strong in my body. I couldn’t care less if someone thought I was too big or small.
Is your T in good shape? All these facts would determine if her comments would bother me or not. I once had an nurse comment on my weight gain during pregnancy, I still technically had a healthy BMI at 8months along, she was very rude to me about the 5lb gain and yet she was morbidly obese (I have no issue with her weight, just with her giving me rude comments about mine)
Bring it up with your T. If you feel safe with her, she’ll handle it well and you’ll probably feel better for it.

[MoxieDoxie]

Would it bother you if they said it looked like you lost weight? Weight gain and weight loss can be a sign of something going on. So yes it should be addressed either way.

[musinglizzy]

I AM fat and I mention it all the time. My teeny tiny T says "you're not fat." She's full of ****!