[Wonderfalls]

I've been seeing this therapist for maybe even a year. She offered me either every two weeks or every three. I'm not in an emergency and my last long-term therapist only saw me every two weeks for many years, so that didn't seem outrageous. I expected some "therapy" though. What we do is I complain and she'll say a few things (that I already knew). When I asked her how to get a hold of her out of session she just gave me a surprised look and we dropped it.

After she was gone for 2 or 3 appointments for some (mysterious but not serious) procedure the office assistant scheduled me for one appointment just a week after another (with 3 weeks between the next two.) Seeing me after one week the therapist was really annoyed. I don't know with the assistant or with me, but it didn't exactly make me feel good.

I see my psychiatrist in the same office every two months and he'll let me talk to him up to a half hour, which we don't usually use.


I feel like my therapist and I have different ideas about her role in my life and just that my feelings are hurt too. On the other hand I can't say I really need more therapy. Should I find someone who actually is pleased to see me at shorter notice or just accept that this is working okay and get over it? Would your therapist be glad or annoyed to see you an extra time when she's not expecting you?

[SalingerEsme]

I would definitely expect more from a therapist- some really committed work with you.

[SlumberKitty]

Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I would definitely expect more from a therapist- some really committed work with you.

I agree! Kit

[CharlieStarDust]

What an awful feeling. I think my T is happy to see me extra. In the beginning she told me when she saw my name on her calendar she was pleased. Now when I book extra times (via the office admin), she seems surprised but happy. But I have had times where I felt she was trying to get rid of me. I brought it up and she said it was all me projecting (when the fault is hers, she takes ownership, so I believe her when she said this was all me).
Do you feel comfortable addressing it with her?

[NP_Complete]

If my therapist was annoyed to see me I would not stick around. I see mine 3x week and I've never gotten the impression that he was annoyed to see me so often. I fear that's the case, but there's no proof of it. On the contrary, I get the impression that he values the continuity and connection this kind of work brings about. Before we started 3x week, there were plenty of times I asked for an extra session and I never felt like I wasn't welcome if he had the availability. You deserve to have a therapist that doesn't make you feel unwelcome.

[Salmon77]

Should I find someone who actually is pleased to see me at shorter notice or just accept that this is working okay and get over it?

Is it working okay? I mean, do you feel like this T is helping you at all? Your description does not give me the idea that you get much out of your sessions. If that is the case I would say maybe look for a new T, one who will see you once a week, which is the more common frequency as far as I can tell.

Would your therapist be glad or annoyed to see you an extra time when she's not expecting you?

Glad.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by SalingerEsme

I would definitely expect more from a therapist- some really committed work with you.

[Taylor27]

My therapist is always glad to see me no matter how often we meet. You should feel that the therapist is happy to work with you not annoyed. Sounds like it's her problem not yours. Hugs