Would you see this therapist?

Thanks for all the responses on this. As most have touched on there was definitely a loss of trust which might still be present. When she would not see me because I had no money I believe it caused a sort of retraumatisation for me because I was truly devastated, angry and hurt for so long, particularly at the coldness in her voice when she told me no. So maybe it's best I don't return to her at this point.

One last thing I forgot to mention about this T, and would like your views on! (I was actually just reminded by a thread I just saw)

At one stage she told me I would really benefit from coming to therapy twice a week.. I told her that seemed a lot and I could never afford it, and she said "Well, I think if you can find a way to afford it it would be immensely beneficial for you." I found this to be another red flag.

Has anyone had a T suggest twice a week therapy before?

I'm going to try and not hijack and I would like to create another post entirely but this answer of yours, Eleny, brought something to mind about the situation that you may be in....

I feel that these T relationships, to a certain extent, have a shelf life to them. I think they are borne out of a need for US to figure something out and they may or may not be as effective as we'd like -- or may exceed our expectations, but at some point, they take off and result in growth and change for us.... or end.

You sound like you've already come to the conclusion that yours was productive until....it wasn't.

Maybe some of these therapeutic relationships have a lifespan and then they are outgrown. Sometimes I think I've gone into therapy in order to work out some kind of problem and then, once I have the insight/lessons, whatever, it's a big deal for me to extract myself from the T process and relationship. I'm starting to wonder why I put myself through a huge amount of stress and tension when the truth is, the therapy was once useful and now is not. Maybe I don't need to bring a huge amount of drama or judgment. I just need to move on.

Yes. My T wanted me to come at least twice a week; preferably 3 times per week. But he is psychoanalytically oriented and that is standard for that type of therapy plus I have a substantial trauma history.

I agreed with his assessment that it would be better to come more, but I also know that is a huge undertaking and leads to heightened dependency and intensity. One has to be prepared both financially and in other ways and consider the financially viability of continuing long term. I personally could not afford it but am not sure if it was best for me anyway. At the time, it would have helped tremendously but another, more feasible option would be to change his approach. That is what he ended up doing, which made all the difference in the world and eliminated the need to go more than once per week.

Also, I know enough about his ethics and way of working as well as therapy myself to know he was not trying to make money off of me. So I didn't see it as a red flag in my case. However, I have no doubt in my mind that some Ts may try to get people to come more with the goal of earning more money (like many businesses).