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Dec 01, 2018, 05:12 PM
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Hi everyone, last night, my DBT therapist sent me a format for a letter that she suggested I write for ex T. I thought I’d share the format here if anyone wants to write one. I know many of us have either lost or are losing our Ts right now, so here it is for anyone who finds it helpful. I might post mine here when I finish it.
FORMAT FOR LETTER OF LOSS Define the loss:In losing you, I lost…. When I think of you, I remember… What you meant to me… Positive experience/Appreciation:What I miss about you is… I appreciate you for… Pleasant times I remember about you are… I respect…. Negative Experiences:I am angry at you for…. I felt hurt/shame/disappointment…. I felt lonely/fear…. I feel guilty… Closure/Letting Go:I regret I… I forgive you for… I forgive myself for… Hardest thing about letting go is… Meaning:Through losing you, I am changed… What I will always cherish about you… What I will do differently in my life… I learned…. Symptoms of Grief and Loss: Denial, Emotional release (crying), Reactive Depression (loneliness, isolation, feeling hopeless), Panic (feeling overwhelmed, confused and fearful), Remorse and regret, Anger, Physical ailments (headaches, colds, nausea and hypertension). |
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#2
Dec 01, 2018, 05:20 PM
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#3
Dec 01, 2018, 06:24 PM
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Thanks for posting this. It might be a helpful exercise for me to do with ex-MC (though not give him the letter). Is the intention for you just to write it and discuss it with your current T or to actually give it to her? |
| katydid777
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#4
Dec 01, 2018, 06:36 PM
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Thank you for posting this.
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| katydid777
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Dec 02, 2018, 03:20 PM
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I'll second the many thanks you've gotten for posting this. I feel like this could be a good exercise for me in the therapist I still grieve, and the one I'm about to lose.
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| Lemoncake
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Dec 03, 2018, 12:28 PM
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Thanks for posting! I am inclined to write my former therapist such a letter - though want to give it at least 6 months. At this point I’m not sure if it would be a letter of sincere appreciation or raging anger.
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Dec 03, 2018, 01:34 PM
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Thanks for posting this. Kit
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